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writes:I'm going through divorce after 20 some years of marriage. I met a guy on a bike ride a few weeks before I filed and we hit it off as friends we've been friends since 4 months now I moved out of the house and live with friends. I spend a lot of time with my guy friend. I cook for him and we watch movies games etc.at his house and We talk daily on the cell. I love this man he is everything my x wasn't My friend keeps saying settle Down. The reason is he won't move into the bedroom until I'm divorced. I asked him to wait. Well I know he is on dating sites and is looking on other single lists. I know because the online links were highlighted in blue for "women seeking men" and" romance" on craigs list. This hurt and I am now wondering if ive been an idiot to believe he may just be stringing me along. But why would he seem interested? Not sure what to think.he did say you are here with me so I'm believing I'm the one. Just hurts knowing he is visiting online dating sites.can I really trust this guy? Should I ask him about these sites? Could I risk losing him to knowing the truth? I believe he is a one relationship man I'm new at this relationship stuff so I really do not know what to think.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2008): He may think you aren't actually going to leave your husband. Most married men don't leave their wives for their mistresses...this may be the thought process he's working from
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2008): Ask him. It is better to know the truth, even if it means the risk of losing him. Vow, then he was not really "into" you or geniune about you. Don't wait and allow uncertainties to make you unhappy and misrable. Ask him and most important, explain to him how you feel about it. He needs to know your feelings. Once he is aware of your feelings it will be very interesting to see what he is doing.
When you do talk to him, keep in mind this quote from Frank A Clark: "The next best thing to solving a problem is finding some HUMOR in it".
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