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My friend was hurtful to me, and now she's mad at me. Shouldn't it be me who is angry at her?

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Question - (24 August 2008) 4 Answers - (Newest, 29 August 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

My best friend kept winding me up about supposedly fancying a teacher at our school. I didn't like him as he is probably 4 times my own age and it was beginning to tire.

First she text me and said what's his [the teacher's] real name? So I told her his first name. She replied saying oh so you call him ___ [shortened version of his name] instead of _______ [full version of his name]. To which I said please shut up because I know what you're hinting at and it's not funny.

She then said that it was a joke. I replied something like well jokes are funny and I'm not laughing. It's gone on long enough, since before Christmas and it's getting a bit boring now. It's gone on and on and because it's persistant, it's a form of bullying. If you don't agree then I'll show the texts to our form tutor and see what his opinion is. She didn't reply.

This was some 1 and a half months ago and she's still stressed with me about it as we fell out. I tried talking to her about it and she turned it round on me and tried making it out like it was my fault and used the usual excuse of being sensitive.

I don't know why she's in a stress with me when she said it. Shouldn't I be unhappy with her? And how do I talk to her considering she completely blanks me whenever I'm near her.

Thank you in advance. x

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2008):

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Thanks. Qchele both my mother and I believe she's jealous of me. She's very pale and is always trying various 'tanning' lotions and always takes it personally when we innocently ask her why she's got orange legs. Whereas my grandfather from my dads side was coloured and so I have olive skin and so naturally tan easily and am not very pale when I lose my tan.

I just don't think that this would be the reason for her jealousy. Although polls on bebo of who's prettiest have shown majority voters voting for me. Maybe that's it. I just don't know.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2008):

Dear Poster

You received a very good answer from Qchele; I agree with her 100%

Best wishes and ots of SMILES

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2008):

So sorry to hear that someone you consider to be a friend has been so uncaring of your feelings.

I do not see where you have done anything wrong in your post.

Ask yourself if this person is truly your friend?

Friends do not mean to hurt one another and when a mistake happens it can be mended.

All that I have to go on is your post, but my first thought is that someone that picks at you like that may have some hidden negative feelings toward you, maybe a bit of jealousy? I don't know.

If that is the case be glad for the peace you have in your life without this person, it is their loss and not yours. She can go and pester someone else and leave you be.

A true friend would understand that you did not care for the joke. I understand and I don't even know you.

Keep your head up!

Qchele

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (25 August 2008):

eyeswideopen agony auntYou need to find a new best friend.

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