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writes:I went to a party at a friends house last night and there was alcohol, i'm not much of a drinker, so i hung around with my other friends who just wanted to dance and have fun. The problem is, my close who i used to have respect for got 'drunk' on 2 alcopops and started flaunting herself on every guy who came along. Was she just trying to fit in? She's usually a decent girl. She usually criticises people who do exactly what she did. It makes no sense. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou've got a fair point there, thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): Well if he was so crushed by her then why didn't he tell her to piss off? She was drunk and looking for attention, it's very normal for girls to do that, it happens sometimes. Yes you are being judgmental, you're judging her actions now aren't you?
Have you even talked to her yet and seen how she feels about it? Perhaps you should talk to your friend instead of getting strangers on the internet to judge her for you.
We don't know what she's like but if she doesn't like that kind of behaviour then she's going to feel even worse that she did it, the last thing she needs is her "friend" punishing her for it and 'losing respect' based on one drunken moment. Judging her and making her feel worse.
Might be better if she had friends that forgive that kind of thing or if you don't like the way she acts, crushing guys that like her and then flirting with them drunk, then why are you her friend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni don't think i'm very judgemental, but she completly crushed this boy a couple of months ago and then she was all over him. It's hard to see her pushing him around and the thing that's annoying is that i had a proper conversation with her last night, but when he approached she acted strange.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): Alcohol can strange effects on people. She was just cutting loose and is probably very ashamed right now.
Don't judge her too harshly, in this case you can blame the drink because at the end of the day she didn't hurt anyone, she didn't really do anything wrong and she probably feels horrible for acting like a fool. Do nothing, just ask her how she's feeling.
"who i used to have respect for" No offence but if you're talking about losing respect for a friend based on one very minor drunken mistake then you're not a very good friend. Seriously you might not be much of a drinker then you won't know ho easy it is to get carried away when drunk. Nobody's perfect and if you're going to "lose respect" for good friends based on tiny errors then I'm sorry but you're being too judgmental.
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reader, petina1 +, writes (12 December 2010):
 Your friend was showing signs of flirting. She may have fancied someone there and wanted to be attention seeking. The drink was the confidence she needed. I'ts all part of growing up and i wouldnt worry too much about it.Whenever there is drink at parties then there's silly behaviour.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 December 2010):
 Well if she is not used to drinking alcohol then the drink may have went straight to her head. Alcohol makes people do things that they wouldnt usually do because it gives them a false sense of confidence.
Try talking to her and ask her how she feels about that night, explain to her how her behaviour changed and ask her how she feels about this. She may be embarressed with herself or it could be possible that she just wanted to fit in. Talk to her about it and see how she is feeling.
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