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writes:Pretty strange question but here goes. I've recently heard some shocking news, and i'm confused as to why it has been treated like a secret, i hope that maybe i could get a general consensus or verdict from someone who doesnt know me, or the person involved.It's a little silly really, but i've just found out a good friend of mine (in the work place) is getting married in October of this year. Now i wouldn't mind this, at all, if id have known about it. But he hasn't mentioned anything to me at all. He hasn't even mentioned he had a g/f, which i was later informed of he has been with for years. What is misleading the most is that he is overfriendly with me, but not in a 'i want to sleep with you' way. He has never asked me out, or confided in me his feelings about me, but he has spoken to my friend (in the workplace) and confessed that he had feelings for me, and felt that he wasn't good enough and that 'he had missed the boat' in regards to us ever being together. It was a couple of months ago but he wouldn't leave my side in work...and talk to me about everything, claiming he had never been able to talk to anyone like me before. He doesnt know about what my friend told me. But my concern is that i have spoken to him on many occasions about my ex's and my life...yet he has FOR 2 YEARS successfully manages to erase his future wife.It was only the other day that he helped me set up for work, and when i asked him how he was he replied 'all the better for seeing you, i could talk to you all day' i then asked him what had been bothering him because he said he was depressed and he replied 'i'll tell you one day..' and took a big sigh. This guy isn't a love rat, he is quiet, and speaks to me with sensitivity. He has never slipped up once. Is he unhappy, or out for what he can get? Or have i got it really wrong, and i'm looking into something that doesn't mean a thing.Am i being stupid or is this just something that you don't let slip your mind?what are your suggestions on this? is he loverat or is he crying out to me.thanks
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (28 July 2008):
 well the fact he wasnt honest about his fiance isnt a good sign the fact hes flirting with you when he is with someone else that dont look good either..ide let it slip into convo one day ask how the fiance is see what his reaction is to this news. and if he is that unhappy in his relationship why the hell is he getting married..ide assume he is unhappy in his relationship and looking at ulterior means for happpyness but all the while he is with his fiance so anything you may have going on here if your flirting wont work out maybe thats why he is sad he wants you but is commited to his relationship he cant have his cake and eat it..you want to get to the bottom of this you need a good talk with him..in this day and age its shocking how so much communication is lost with people when their are so many ways to do it in yet we sit their in silence with our thoughts thinking of a hundred and one answers to our problems yet at the end of the day if we got off our asses and asked we wouldnt be torturing ourselfs asking whats going on here then..hope that helps good luck aphex xx
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