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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:A guy friend of mine has been flirting with me for months, always telling me that I'm beautiful and special and how much he likes me. We aren't "together" but I thought it was understood that we liked each other and it was developing. But I just found out that while I was away for winter break, he slept with a girl I know - a girl who was a virgin, like me. Now I feel like I can't trust him anymore. What should I do? And why did he do that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2011): Unfortunately, it sounds to me like he thought things were way more casual between you two than you did, since you aren't exactly in a relationship. But in my opinion, he still shouldn't have slept with someone else if he's telling YOU those things all the time.
If he's with the other girl, then there's not much you can do now. If he's not, then you need to take a step back and really ask yourself what kind of person he is. Sounds like he's verging into 'player' territory, and you need to be very cautious.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (10 January 2011):
 Well now you have to decide if you still want to go anywhere with him or just be friends. The thing about liking someone is that you can like multiple people at one time and when the oppertunity arrises, like sex with one of them you take it. This is a main characteristic of an oppertunist. The problem is that you really can't be mad at him because you to were just flirting. Now, that doesn't mean you can't judge him for this and make your own choices. I'm sorry this happened to you and maybe you can learn something from this for the future. Whenever people are just seeing each other causually and aren't in a relationship there is always the possibilty that either person is also seeing other people at the same time.
This is just my opinion but I beleive that you can only have one gf or bf but you are allowed to see as many people as you want to as long as you are not commited to one.
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