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writes: My question is in two parts.Im male, I have a female friend.1) My friend has a sexual problem, she really loves sex and wants to please men because she thinks it will make them love her but everyone just uses her and she cant stop...What can I do to help and what advice can I give her?2) I know that she is so amazing that I will fall in love with her, i know she really likes me but thinks im too good for her..which makes me scared as we'd be a fantastic couple but i fear she'd end up cheating because of her problem!Help!?! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2005): I know exactly how she is feeling because I too have gone through what she is! And what you need to do is tell her how you truly feel and let her know that you love her and will be there if she needs you! She is probably going through past relationships gone bad! Trust me, I know. I have the same thing going on word for word, the prob. and everything! Just don't worry so much when you tell her how you feel. My friend told me how he felt and well it turns out I was in love with him too! So I hope everything works out for you!
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reader, highpriestess105 +, writes (17 April 2005):
I think that your friend is possibly unhappy with herself. She craves the affection and closeness that comes with sex. Has she been hurt emotionally in the past> If so, then it is easy to keep having relationships of this kind without the worry of being hurt.My best advice is to try and talk to her. See what's going on in her head. She could be worried about being alone and not having a partner. The only way you can truly find help her is to try and talk to her. Tell her that you care about her and not just as a friend.Her self esteem sounds low as well if she thinks that you're too good for her (no malice intended). We are all equal iin this world. I hope I've managed to help.
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reader, zarcha +, writes (17 April 2005):
You need to let her know that sex is not the answer to everything. Just because you give a man a piece of sex it does not mean that they are going to love you. It's just they want pleasure & they know that you are willing to give them something. Also if your friend carries on like this then she will get a name for herself & then men will just come to her for that & only that. They will tell her what she wants to know as they will realise that they only need to tell her what she wants to her & they got it. If you like her as much as you say then I think that you should start dating. don't give her NO sex in the begining as then it seems as if you are like the rest of the men. So take it slow with dating & taking her home then going to your own house. After time she should realise that you are different from all other men. Make her know that you are not too good for her if that is how you feel. Talk to her about her problem. Maybe she is addicted to sex. If this is the case then perhaps you should suggest that she recieves counselling to help her. If you fear that she will cheat on you then you need to address this with her make her understand how you feel & of your worries. I hope that I have helped you out.
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reader, Tia +, writes (17 April 2005):
My advice to you would be to sit your friend down and have a long talk to her. I think you need to be completely honest with her about the way she acts. It might come a bit hard to her to hear but she needs to be told as she is blind to it herself. Don't discuss the fact that you want to be with her at the same time as this will confuse her. She may get angry at first, but you need to be a good friend (as this is the basis of all good, long lasting relationships) and she will see in the end. Be there for her and help her to recognise her behaviour and correct it and in time she may see that you are the man for her.I hope this helps, good luck.
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