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writes:I'm 14 and my friend *Emma has just turned 15.The thing is she keeps thinking she is a vampire.It started around halloween last year like pretending she was a vampire and it was a laugh but she continued with it. When she started to read Twilight and saw the film she became Obsessed and started saying stuff like she is a vampire or a half human half vampire.me and my friends didn't mind it to begin with cause we knew she was having a laugh that was until she started biting our friends. Then we started getting annoyed at her and if she got a cut on her hand she would suck the blood which no one thought anything of until she made it worse by biting it then sucking the blood again....She is also always trying to boss us around and we have told her about it and she just denyed it then we left it for a while although she is really bossy.she is constantly getting on everyones nerves with the whole "Im a vampire/ or im a hybrid" thing. My friend *sara has had enough and has stopped talking to her and has fell out with her and im really annoyed at her but she doesn't realise this...My friend *Jay confronted her about the whole vampire thing (she was really nice about it) and she just said its a laugh nothing more and has took it badly...She keeps saying its a laugh nothing more and that she isnt annoying anyone and is crying cause no one knows what to say to her cause we've had enough....It will come to the point that no one will talk to her and she will go to her dad who will give us all grief about it...but were only saying before it goes any further. Were getting really annoyed with her and i dont want to fall out with her but im getting really really annoyed with her telling me what to do and the vampire thing.but she is hurt and doesnt know how much damage she is doing cause it will get to the point she will have no friendshelp? Reply to this Question
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (25 May 2009):
 I think that people become detached from reality and live vicariously through fiction because they're trying to escape from reality. Maybe there is something going on in her life that is troubling her, and she has nowhere to escape other than this fantasy world that she has created. Perhaps the poor kid is bored and needs something fun to do.
There's nothing wrong with reading or writing creative stories as a temporary escape. For example, I always wished that witches and wizards and magic were real, and I have never read Twilight but I love the Harry Potter stories. It's refreshing to escape to a fantasy world sometimes.
My real life was very messed up when I was a teenager, I went to a crummy public high school where I was a number, I was always getting lost in the crowd, the teachers didn't seem to care about me and the other kids didn't accept me. I'm over it now, but I never did have all the fuzzy memories like prom and I will always have the bad memories from high school.
I think that the Harry Potter stories appeal to me because I would have liked to attended a magical high school like Hogwarts. This sounds puerile at my age, but I like to daydream that I go to Slytherin House (the sexiest of the four Hogwarts houses :) ) and make an "A" in potions class and play quidditch. I think that it's a barely disguised longing to fill a void... in real life, I never had a sense of belonging or identity in High School. The void is manifested in my daydreams: Of going to a magical high school and attending Slytherin house... BAM, there you go, a sense of belonging and identity that I didn't have as a teenager.
However, I realize that it's ok to temporarily escape in books, but you have to face reality eventually. I enjoy the stories, and enjoy daydreaming about attending a magical high school, but I have come to accept that while I can't escape my painful real-life memories, I have had to accept that we all miss out on things, it was unfortunate that I had a bad life as a teenager, but I have since found some very special opportunities in real life, and I'm grateful for them.
My point is, that I think your friend has escaped to a fantasy world where she's a vampire, because she's trying to deny something or escape from something. Nothing wrong with reading creative stories, but your friend is detached from reality. I think that it would help her to talk to someone, I sense she's troubled and trying to escape reality.
I've been to a series of counselors, and it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. It means that you need to get to the bottom of what's causing you trouble. I don't know your friend but it would help her to talk to someone professional and pinpoint why she needs to escape so badly. In my case I was angry about the things that happened to me as a kid, and a counselor helped me see that I was angry all the time because I was bored. I made some changes.
My answer is rather verbose, but I think you understand my point, let me know if I need to clarify.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): um...best defence against vampires - talk to them. Say hey "grow up muppet or we start to call you the count ar ar ar "
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