A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I recently got out of a bad relationship, my ex was always demanding sex and using mind games to make me feel like s**t. I found hope in another guy, he's amazing and always telling me how perfect I am. He listens to my every problem and never asks for anything in return. There's just one problem. My best friend used to be head over heels for him and he turned her away. I guess she feels betrayed, and I don't blame her. She's mad that I went for someone that I knew she initially had feelings for. Now I feel like s**t, again, and know that I have to cut ties with him. But I don't know how to without feeling broken over it. Help?
View related questions:
best friend, my ex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2010): Don't worry about what your friends or anyone else think about you dating him. Just go out with him and never feel bad about it. It's your choice, if you like him, and if someone's jealous about that they'll have to deal with it, not you. Tell them that if they give you attitude about it. Your friend will have to respect your decisions about who you really like and want to be with. It's not your fault he didn't want to be with her, so you don't owe her a thing, and she'll just have to suck it up.
A
female
reader, Raawr +, writes (28 February 2010):
I know exactly how you feel (I've been in that situation), and you shouldn't cut ties with someone who makes you feel good about yourself. Talk to your friend about it, and if she continues to make you feel bad about yourself, then she's not a very good friend for you. If she just backs off, and realizes that's none of her business then you can still be with him and still have your friend. You seem like you're always so focused on other people's desires, do something that will make you happy and if he makes you happy, I say go for it. Best wishes.
...............................
A
male
reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (28 February 2010):
No you don't have to cut ties. She USED to have feelings for him, and they never even went out. It's more like she's jealous because you got someone she couldn't. Seems to me like you're a bit used to being pushed around by people. So this time, do what's right for you, not for someone else. If you want this guy, if he listens and treats you well, then go for it. Don't spend the rest of your life trying to do what's right for everyone else and letting yourself be treated badly. Do what you want.
...............................
|
