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writes:hello well one of my friend seem to be interfering everyone loves life like i use to like her one of her relatives and she didnt something for him to lye about your romance ..anyway so i like a new boy that so happpens to like her he flirts with her and things but he told her sister that she stupid and she ulgy and she uses him because she play hard to get .anyway so one time i went over and he was their and he put his arm around me and things he was play around ...i got feelings for him ..on christmas we were siting on the couch and one on the kids where sleeping he moves over and puts his arm me ..than she comes and he moves his arm when we see see thing like that she gets jelouse so she make sure he will stop she even like that with her sister very anoying like she makes sure her sister is not talking to boy or holding hands and tounching she also talk about him 24/7 im like shut it i really like him what do i do help..
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (16 June 2012):
Hi there. It seems like your friend is very insecure.
Perhaps if she had a boyfriend of her own and it was a stable relationship, things might all change completely.
It seems like she is jealous when her friends have something that she doesn't.
And that "something" being a boy who lavishes attention on them.
Perhaps the best way to deal with this type of personality, would be to avoid the situation altogether and find some new, more secure friends.
That way, you can freely show attention to someone you like, without her interference and dirty looks all the time.
As it probably happens all the time, it sometimes comes to a point where you have to make a decision.
What she might also be jealous about, is that you being with a boy and talking with him, means that it is less time you are paying her attention, and so this makes her uncomfortable and a bit resentful towards you, and the boy you happen to be with at the time.
The only other way to stay friends with her if you really do enjoy her friendship otherwise, would be to either be with her - just you and her - and save being with a boy you like, to another time altogether.
That way, she gets your full attention and so she is happy with that.
And the boy you like can show you affection, knowing there are not going to be any disapproving looks from her, as she won't be there.
Then there will be no more problems of this type, ever again.
So what I am really saying here, is to see your friends at separate times.
See her sometimes - just you and her.
See any boys you like at other times, when it's just you and them.
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