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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello reader.Just recently i found out that my 16 year old friend has been involved in an affair for about a year. To my horror, she told me that he was 27 and one of our mutual co-workers. She made me sware that I woouldn't tell anyone. Well, all of her close friends know and have told her that this needs to stop. She told me that she is going to end the relationship, but I don't believe her. To make it worse, her friend of 10 years (currently my boyfriend) has been being used as an alabi the entire time. She would run off with this adulture and then comeback later saying something like "I have to go for a bit but I'll be back." I felt that she was wrong to use/deceive him, so I ended up telling him what was up. She now found out that I told him and thinks that I did it "just to have someone else to talk to about the situation." The truth is that she had told him a long time ago that she'd had sex with a 25 year old coach (a different person than this other guy and a lie). I didn't understand why she would tell my boyfriend that lie and deceive him about all of this. Now of course she is pissed off at me. I know she's going to lie about breaking it off and I am seriously concerned about her. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2007): Well, if I were in your shoes, I would tell her that this adulterer is using her for sex, and he could be arrested for having sex with a minor and be put on a sexual predator list....not to mention that as a co-worker he is breaking rules concerning sexual harassment in the work place, and he is married.,,,,
I would stop talking to her, tell her you don't want to enable her in her bad choices and she can no longer use your boyfriend as some kind of alibi, because neither of you will back her up....and then I would go to your HR department and give them a heads up about this guys behavior in having an affair with this child from work....at the end of the day, it is really her responsibility for what she is doing, but she is a child and is being influenced by this older guy.
She is going to regret this sooner than later, and when she comes around to cry on your shoulder, I guess you can tell her I told you so....it is too bad, you can't drop a hint to her parents or mother about what she is up to with this older married co-worker, maybe you could call her at home when you know she is out with him and blow her cover...who cares if she is mad at you, she is using you, too, and you don't have to put up with being her alibi.
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