| A
female
,
* Jo V
writes: is it ok for my 13 year old friend to date a 19 year old? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2008): the law says it is illegal if you have any kind of sex because of the fact that 13 year olds are minors. otherwise they can't do anything. some people just think that it's wrong because they are looking at the ages. but really if you think about it its 6 years age difference. my parents are 6 years apart from each other. my friend married a guy 17 years older than her and nobody has a problem with that. no they were already adults when they met but i don't see why ur age when you meet them really matters. as long as he's not pressuring you into anything and there's no sex then who's to say there's something wrong with him? i'm sorry to drag this on but my point is that as long as you don't have sex you're fine.
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2008): wow...i'm a 13 year old girl. and my bf is 19. i just looked this up to see if it was really illegal. my dad can't stand my bf, and neither can his uncle. and it's really hard not to hide our relationship. but i'm scared he'll go to jail. but we've been together for about a year now. and i have dep feelings for him, i don't wanna let him go. i literally love him. i just want to know if this is illegal or not.
...............................
A
female
reader, Amethyst  +, writes (30 December 2006):
 Well then obviously he really has emotions for her, therefore the age gap shouldn't be a problem as long as he's a nice guy. There's nothing wrong with him, he's just attracted to a girl and is managing to not care about the strange looks he'll be getting out in public.
...............................
A
female
reader, K Jo V +, writes (8 December 2006):
K Jo V is verified as being by the original poster of the questionshes originally told him she was 17. they were just friends. then he asked her out and she said yes and asked him if he was sure though because she lied to him. then she told him she was 13. he said he still really liked her.
...............................
A
male
reader, is_god_alanis +, writes (8 December 2006):
no this is really bad. i'm 18, i know for a fact none of my friends would go near anyone who was even 16 let alone younger, its just not normal, 13 is so young! you should tell someone about this, even if there is no sex involved, this guy obviously has something wrong with him.
...............................
A
female
reader, K Jo V +, writes (28 November 2006):
K Jo V is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank You for your advice. He already told her that hes not gonna have sex until shes ready. and my friend wont have sex at least until shes 18. so sex isnt the issue. once again thank you for your advice. i apreciate it.
...............................
A
female
reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (27 November 2006):
 Anyone who tells you this is alright doesn't know and has never been around 13 year old girls. I've raised two daughters and know what I'm talking about here. This is definitely not okay. She is in danger. No normal 19 year old would be doing this. Tell your parents and you guys discuss what happens next.
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2006): No, it's isn't okay. It is totally bizarre.This must really be a strange fellow, and nothing but trouble can come from it. Is he developmentally disabled or something?
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2006): This is so wrong and for you to email you know deep down that this is wrong, he is a man and she is only a girl even if she feels and acts older than 13 she should be out looking for a boy her own age.
This man should not be going out looking for young girls as he could get in a lot of trouble, do her mum and dad know? maybe you could tell your mum and dad and then let them tell hers, this is your mate and i know you are trying to protect her as he could try somthing on and she maynot be mature enough to handle it.
Good luck babe wish i had a friend like you at that age.
K x.
...............................
A
female
reader, Amethyst +, writes (26 November 2006):
While I'd like to say your friend is mature enough and responsible enough to handle herself, I don't know her so I can't make that judgement. Mostly though, in today's society, this is a big "no-no." The age difference isn't a problem of numbers, it's a problem of experiences. He might pressure her into doing things she doesn't need/want to be doing at such a young age... for example, sex! She needs to give that up when she IS ready, not when she thinks she ready and she knows he wants it.
I think really all you can do is tell her to be careful with it, because she may get upset with you if you tell her no. Just say that because he's older he might pressure her, and just tell her it's ok for her to tell him no. If he leaves her for it, he wasn't the boyfriend she thought he was. And besides, if all he wants sex, that'd basically make him a pedophile, wouldn't it? .
Good luck with this, and sorry I'm pressed for time, and can't give better advice. Let me know if you have any more questions though.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2006): Dating someone at that age range isn't illegal. It's when you have a sexual relationship with that person at that age range that makes it illegal. If they're holding hands, giving hugs, and have kisses here and there, it's totally fine. Then again, I'm sure there will be people out there that may find is unacceptable, but who's to say that's unacceptable or not?
...............................
A
female
reader, bellachic385 +, writes (26 November 2006):
 No. He might be hot but it is not only illigal but he is much more mature than her. He can drive which can be convienient but bad things can happen. Tell her. It won't be easy but it is the right thing to do. She might get mad because she thinks he loves her. Thigs like this are on the news everyday and you don't want anything to happen to her. Good Luck.
...............................
|
