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writes:I really don't know what to do anymore. My friend and I have been avoiding each other for almost two months now and I hate it espesically because there isn't even a good reason for it. Or maybe I don't even know why we started doing this.It all started this one night that me in my infinite wisdom tried to tell her I had feelings for her (over the phone no less, how cowardice is that? Please don't agree with me). Well I can't say I expected her response; she told me something to the effect of no you don't, you're just confusing your emotions. My first thought to this was wtf, since when do you know what I feel? Of course I didn't say that mostly because by this point I'm too nervous to continue but also because I figured I didn't matter, at least this way we could still be friends. So whatever, instead I change subjects and eventually we talk about how I was worried about her going to college next year and what that would mean for our friendship. She said I was just overracting and that I didn't sound like my self. I really didn't have an answer to that but we both had things to do for the next day so she ended the conversation and said she would see me then.Well the next day we didn't talk to each other at all. I know I probably should've taken the initiative and gone to talk to her and at least say that I felt better but I didn't, I couldn't. For the first time in my life I was actually afraid to talk to her. I hated that because it used to always be so easy for me to be around her and I was never afraid of telling her anything; that was something I truely loved about our friendship. I always thought eventually one of us would break the ice, but now more than eight weeks have past without a single word between us much less eye contact. I don't know what to do now that I let so much time pass by. I can't concentrate, I can't sleep, I can't do anything but think about how much this bothers me and how much I really need to fix this. Please help me, I can't live in this beyond pathetic situation anymore. Reply to this Question
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reader, mrsadguy  +, writes (10 February 2008):
you just answered your own question, man up and go talk to her. it's important for one of you to take the first step and break the ice. it might as well be you.
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