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26-29,
*jroller14
writes:My friend, she knows we all love her, she knows we care for her, but her boyfriend wont let her talk to any of her friends.She used to call all her friends hun, sweetie, etc. But he told her that if she calls them that he'll break up with her. She's not ALLOWED according to her boyfriend to talk to me, our other friend 'A', or 'B'. He thinks the less people she can hang with the easier it will be to be with her. (We think if he cant accept and love our crazy friend he doesnt really love her)The sad part about all this is she is knowing he is doing it, but we have no idea to get her to understand. She doesnt want to break up with him, she knows he is doing it, but we just want our friend back and we want to help her! Reply to this Question
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (3 June 2011):
 This is a tough one. Explain to her that she is still young and there are plenty more chance for her to have a boyfriend who will love and respect her. This guy sounds like a right jerk!!
No-one has the right to tell her who she can and can't talk to, and he's emotionally blackmailing her by saying he'll break up with her if she calls any of her friends. I mean that is just ridiculous!!!
I'm 26 and not so long ago i had a bf who didn't like me talking to certain people. I was like she was, i stopped talking to alot of my friends because of him, and since i ditched him for good, i am now back in touch with all of those people and i've never been happier!!!!
Now, what do you do about it?? Unfortunately all you can do is tell her how much it hurts you to see him doing this to her and that she deserves better... MUCH BETTER!! Whether or not she listens to your advice is another story, but if things go horribly wrong (which they may well do for her) then you need to reassure her that you will be there for her always.
I hope she listens to you and kicks him to the curb. How dare anyone say who someone can and can't interact with!!!
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