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writes:i have a dear friend that has just gone through a horrific ordeal with his wife. she has abused him mentally, emotionly. and sometimes even phisicaly. he is now going threw devorce, but his wife is being nasty about him filling for it. she keeps telling him that he will never see their children again. but she abuses them to. social services knows about this and so does the police. now after all of this blows over and i pray to god it does how do i help him? i have none him since we were babies. he has sever trust issues, and he even admitted to me that he is going to have a hard time trusting any one. what do i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (1 March 2009):
 Just be like a new family to him. He is going to need lots of unconditional support to get through the trying time. I am certain he can gain primary custody of the children if social services has investigated her and found abuse. He will need help coping with the hardship of being a single dad.
He really is not going to be ready to be in the dating game, but if you step in now as a friend, then it will help him be more open to allowing new people into his life in the future. Help build a support system of friends who can all share in the human responsibility of getting his life going again. It really does take a village to even 'raise' an adult.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2009): As his friend you can support him and show him that not all women are like his wife!
I also have a dear friend who is going through a hard time with his wife. I know he tends to think all women tend to think like his wife does. I try to convince him that it is not so. I try to be as supportive as possible. And then there are times we disagree...but I always allow him his right to his opinion. That's all we can do! We can be a true friend!
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