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writes:hi im 16 years old ill be 17 shortlyive been with my boyfriend for about 8 months nowand recently losy my virginity with him it was his first time to!as we were doing it i relaxed a bit as ive read its beter if we are relaxed but im not too sure if it was all the way in i didnt feel any pain i didnt bleed it was a bit uncomfortable but it also wasnt good!! and i no they say first time isnt so good but i mean i didnt feel any thing i helped him and guided him did i do it wrong?any advise would be great thanks as he is constantly asking me to sleep with him sincethanks Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (8 February 2008):
 If you were not good, will he come for more? You have to be careful that it is love and not lust. The mouth only say love but in fact it is lust.
Wanting to have more sex with you is not about love . It could be pure lust. Has he done anything good for you where it hurt his pocket?
If you are in love with him , you can be blind and won't see his faults.
You can ask him if he likes it. If you are willing to have sex with him , why feel embarrassed asking if it is good or not? No harm there.
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reader, happyholly +, writes (7 February 2008):
Time will sort this one out, just be close for a while and then may be try again when you are both ready. As you grow together you will learn more about each other emotionaly and physicaly.
Stay safe,be happy and remember only ever do what YOU want to do not what YOU think you should do.
Take care , Holly x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni dont no if it was good for him i didnt ask but he wont stop asking me since then to sleep with him!
he tells me he loves me and wen he ses it its as if he really means it
people tell me im gd at judging ppl jus by looking at them and when i look at him i see a decent person i dont think he would cheat on me as he always asks me am i or will i.
but any ways my good is like good enough to feel sum thing im saying i didnt feel a thing i guided him but stil when we was doing it i felt bit awkward maybe it was becoz it was my first time but it wasnt comfortable i dont no if it was good for him like i sed i didnt ask and am too embaressed to ask! wht can i do becoz i cannot ask him..
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (5 February 2008):
How good is your good? What kind of standards are you looking at?
Good for you or good for him?
If you think it is good for him, then you don't have to worry.As long as you are there for him , it will be good enough for him.
As for whether it is good for you or not, it is something you have to figure out what is nice for yourself.It is your body and you know what is best . Maybe, you may like to try some sex toys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx for tht information every body it does helpbut ive looked at most answers from other questions aswell and mostly every one had suggested fore play and im not into that sort of thing or fingering stuff like that is not my cup of tea and people tell me to try it i might like it well id have to say i dont like and never willso is there any other things i could do?help!!
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reader, xapathyxrebornx +, writes (4 February 2008):
 practice makes perfect hun =D x
if you want to talk message me x
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (4 February 2008):
Practice makes perfect. Don't worry, you will learn on the job.It gets better with time. You got to do more foreplays and orals .
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reader, Star*cat  +, writes (4 February 2008):
I am no sex expert, but my advice is...just keep trying! You'll get it right sooner or later. Even if the actual intercorse isn't there or you're not sure, be patient, and don't get frustrated, try and keep the mood light and keep things pysical in other ways too. Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2008): No, you didn't do anything wrong. I'm sure it was all the way in - but he was probably just being gentle with you, by the sounds of it. As you were with another virgin, he probably had no idea what he was doing either so it can't be that good, but just the intimacy should have been good enough. Wasn't it just satisfying that you were so close with your partner, and that he trusts you enough to have sex with you.I think it's pretty hard to do sex 'wrong' as long as the penis enters her vagina, which it sounds like it did.
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (4 February 2008):
 Wow, is he really small? I mean you should have felt something. Have you tried doing things to yourself to make sure you are ok down there? It may have been numb maybe but I haven't heard such a thing. I am not a woman so i'm just guessing at some things. But make sure you can feel yourself and if you can then maybe you two were not doing something right. If you are worried then maybe talk to someone older that you can trust like a nurse or doctor or something
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