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writes: I'm 16 and my boyfriend is the most amazing person in the entire world i love him so much. We've been together on and off for the past 9 months or so, and the time has finally come for us to have sex. I'm not nervous at all as we know eachother inside out and i'm totally comfortable with him, and i'm expecting my first time to hurt as everybody says that it does, but what i want to know about is bleeding. How common is it for the hymen to already be broken, and if i bleed when it breaks, will it be messy and ruin the moment? Also, my boyfriends penis in 9 inches long, but i've realised that if i get him to cum a few times during foreplay his erection is much smaller. Is it a good idea to do this so that i experience less pain? thanks xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2007): If you use tampons, it is likely that your hymen has already been broken. My boyfriend of almost a year (whom I lost my virginity to after 2 months-I was 15, he was 16) has an 8.5 inch penis (smaller, but still considered fairly large), and although it was fairly painful the first several times, it was definitely not as painful as I had been led to believe, and I did not bleed at all. It is occasionally still painful, but only if I am not aroused enough beforehand. Hope this helps =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2007): Buy a dildo and you can break yourself in gently with it. Once you have taken a basic six inches and feel relaxed about it, the bigger penises will just slide in and your vagina will adjust.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2006): Alot of it Probably Depends on the girth of the penis. If he's thick than your first time might have more discomfort than your first time with a man with a "thinner" penis.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2006): Lol willywombat :)
Granny I believe 9" penis's make up less than 5% of the population, an average size is about 6". An "endowed" penis mean size is 7.1"
Go take a look at the numerous penis size surveys available on the Internet :P
*ends penis size researching*
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (17 July 2006):
 Granny, can I ask were you live?
If 9" is normal were you come from then I am living in the wrong place.
lol
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reader, Granny +, writes (17 July 2006):
 Wait a minute, 9 inches is normal not oversized - that is point one. Second, who on earth has convinced you that your first time must be painful and that you will bleed? This is not necessarily so. Your body is built to push an 8 pound baby out - believe me, a 9 inch penis should not be a problem. Your first time - properly prepared, can be glorious.
You say you are not nervous, are madly in love and "know each other inside out" so I assume you have been petting heavily. If he has had his fingers inside you, your hymen is already broken. Put a towel under your behind, just in case.
As Seamus recommends, chose a private place to do it first time. Use a condom, and be well lubricated and turned on before you start. Use lubricant if you are at all worried - it helps a lot, but being really turned on is the best. Don't do it unless you really want it.
Wishing you a wonderful time!
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reader, willywombat +, writes (17 July 2006):
Sorry, but you sound as if you know very little about the male of the species, much less about how their bits work.
I suggest you go get yourslef a basic anatomy book and start again.
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reader, seamus +, writes (17 July 2006):
Thats not true about the size of his erection reducing after cumming a couple of times. You would be lucky if he could even heve sex on that occasion after ejaculating more then once.
so no it is not a good idea to reduce pain. You must talk to him before sex and make sure he is aware it is your first time. Ask him to move slow and make sure your well Lubricated before he tries to enter you. There may be pain but as long as he doesnt force his penis inside and is gentle the pain should be minimized.
As for bleeding it depends on the girl, you probably will bleed a little but bare in mind that my first time was with a virgin and the bleeding was minimal.In fact we didnt even notice untill we had finished. Make sure your in an empty house so if theres any cleaning up to be done you can do it privatly.
Also he shouldnt expect to get his penis all the way inside, In fact this may be impossible at this time, He sould be aware of this. Any way if he even gets it half way it would be sufficent and next time it will be a lot easier and more pleasurable. Hope I helped!
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