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writes: Please I need some advice. Until my last r/ship I have always been straight, but I ended up very close to a female friend who is a lesbian and ended up with her. I moved away from family and friends to be with her, we moved near her family. Anyway 8 weeks ago we split up, she left me and went off to stay with some woman she met on the internet. She would not admit she was in another relationship, always was going on about coming home, wont drop the contact with me, and therefore i cant move on. Today she at last told me she is with this woman and that they only just got together (minutes after saying she may still come home), she is a liar and is always making up stories. I just do not understand that if she is with someone else and in another r/ship, why she would want any contact with me now at all? I find it hard to let go because I am the one who is dreadfully hurt, alot more has happened than what I have said here, but the end result is her going, yet I would start to get over it if she did not keep raising my hopes all the time to dash them again and did not contact me. Can anyone tell me why she is doing this? It is clear she does not love and care for me as I thought she did, so what is the point in it all? It is screwing my head up. Please help.
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reader, sugapuff  +, writes (27 September 2006):
 what do you want?why are you giving her all the power?you decide if its over or not!you dont need her to get over it!youve gotta take the power back!
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reader, Toria +, writes (26 September 2006):
 It sounds like she doesn't want to totally let go of you therefore keeping herself a safety net if things don't work out for her and her new partner, the best thing you can do is cut the contact from your side and if she doesn't respect that you want and need this then you should possibly think about changing your number so she can't keep messing with your head.
Good luck :o)
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reader, fallenman  +, writes (26 September 2006):
 Is it possible the very thing your friend is trying to do i.e. avoid saying goodbye because it may be to painful to either or both of you, is the very thing that is creating a painful break up.
You could try to confront her to give you a definite answer, but if you believe she is liar would you trust her answer?
The way out is to accept its over, accept she may call you from time to time, but also to move on.
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