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writes:How can I tell my fiance's sisters that they're not gonna be bridesmaids at MY wedding?! They think they are!
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reader, helpful girl +, writes (28 June 2011):
 tell them in the nicest possible way e.g im sorry to tell you this but i asked who ever is going to be braids maids to be bride maids ages ago, im sure you can think of something else they can do which is important but not a brides maid maybe sort the venue out. i dont know just trying to think of an important job for them to do.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2011): How does your Fiance feel about this? Why isn't he going to bat for you? The bride is typically the one who decides how many bridesmaids she wants or needs, and whom.
I have 3 brothers, and I wanted a small wedding party. So I made my brothers "honorary groomsmen" but they did not stand at the altar with me...they sat in the front pew in tuxes. They were OK with it...some others were not. Point being, you do need to make an effort to include them somehow if they wish.
I suggest you all talk it out (with your Fiance present) and explain that you want to honor them somehow, but you've already people in mind as bridesmaids. Together you will work something out.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (28 June 2011):
 Just sit down with them face to face and explain that unfortunately they are not going to be bridesmaids because you only want x amount of bridesmaids and you have x people already for those roles.
Be nice about it, it is their brother's wedding and they will be upset to not be involved. Maybe ask them to do a reading during the ceremony? That is a nice way for them to still feel like they are part of the wedding without you having them as bridesmaids.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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