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writes:My fiancé of 2.5 years broke up with me two months ago. I haven't spoken to her since. She's told me to forget her number and to move on but I really love her and we were just about to move in together. I think her responsevwas out of anger so I gave her time to cool off and now I need your advice, do I hold out and not reach out to her in any way or do I try to text or send an email or call or write..... Anything? If it helps, she's the one that left me, and she's just now 18 and was the one who wanted the marriage. Then she up and left me with an apartment I can't really pay for without her income. And she's left me with our dog, and never once has made an attempt to see the dog or anything.I fear if I reach out to her now I'll lose her by pushing her farther away. I also fear the old adage "out of sight, out of mind.". Any help would be greatly appreciated.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 July 2011):
 18 is such a tender age to be thinking about marriage. She is still very young, and even though you say she is the one that wanted it, I'm afraid at that age people tend to change there mind all the time. She was only a teenager when you got engaged and she may have thought that's what she wanted but teenagers chop and change there mind a lot am sorry to say.
If am honest with you I think the best thing for you to do is to accept that it is over and move on with your life. She told you clearly that it was over and if she wanted things to change she would have been in contact with you by now. I think you need to accept that the relationship is over and move on with your life. Try maybe to look for a cheaper place to rent and start your life over again.
To me it sounds like she doesn't want the dog therefore I guess you need to think about if you want to keep it or else give it to a good home. That is your choice to make. But you need to start moving on with your life. Good luck.
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