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writes:my fiancee, is a cross dresser, and iv been with him for 4 yrs. he hasnt always been honest with me about this, but latley this side of him is out again.im sort of ok with it ,but i have 3 imprssionable young sons. they saw pictures of him dressed like this on my digital camera ,and found his wig in my drawer last week. its really hard for all of us at the moment and i am contemplating leaving him. all iv ever wanted is to be totally happy and in love but still at 36 ,im not getting it. all i want is a good man, not a man who wants to dress as a woman! i thought i was cool with this, but how can i be ? i do love him very much, but i hate him too. he is such a wimp as well. im really confused at the moment. what would you do? please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2007): It sounds like his cross dressing is something youve had to put up with because you love him. You hate his actions,
not him as a person but what he does.
Youve tried to live with this for 4 years, youve tried and if you had a choice i expect you would choose for him not to do this, but he carrys on doing it.
Untill you are in this exact situation you cant understand what it is like.It does change the way you view your partner.You say you want to be happy and in love and your not getting it.Either way your not happy with the situation you are in,so talk to your partner.Ask him to stop dressing like this in front of you. Try to see if he is willing to dress up in something else for a change that you would like a male uniform- think Fireman, police ,military,(Long male biker boots are a good subsitute for heels!) etc,etc,whatever makes you happy my dear. Im hopeing you can turn it around, so that he still gets the thrill,kick of dressing up but you get to see him as the man you really love.Just an idea, use to to your advantage.
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reader, superbunny +, writes (11 September 2007):
 Does dressing up as a woman really make someone a bad person? How can you hate him when you say you love him? I think you're just embarassed by him, which if you love someone should not happen. Hope it all works out okay. x
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