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writes: about 5 years ago, i found the love of my life while in my freshman year of college and about a year ago i asked her to marry me. my fiancee and i have been inseperable and she is already become an important part of my family and vice versa. she is my best friend and i can't imagine my life without her.we are four months away from getting married and over the last couple of weeks, my finacee has been acting very, very strange. very distant and it's seemed as if i didn't even know her. i chalked it all up to her beginning to get nervous about the wedding but then a few days ago she confessed that she had cheated on me with her ex-boyfriend. she said that they hadn't talked in years and suddenly, he showed up and she just fell into temptation. there were apparently multiple encounters and now she is begging for my forgiveness. am i fool to forgive her? i love her more deeply than anyone i've ever met and i can't see myself living without her. her parents have become like my own and i'm just so confused and hurt. please help me...
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2007): if she has done it more than once it was no accident. if it was a one night stand where she was drunk and deeply felt sorry then id advise maybe you gave her a chance after thinking about it. but shes cheated on you multiple times. i suggest you take some time out from her. if i was you id move on because this will haunt you forever but if after time out you still feel strongly that you want her. sit down and tell her exactly what she done to you and how you feel and work on it.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (29 December 2006):
 When did dhe cheat? IF it was recently, this might haunt you for a along time. She told you, because she feels bad about it. She did it more than once though so it wa a choice. This is all up to you and your ability to forgive.
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reader, krongie +, writes (29 December 2006):
 It's a very hard situation you've got, anyway if she really ask forgiveness sincerely, i mean it's not very easy to forgivr for what she had done is not a small thing, maybe you should compromise. Give her another chance, it is brave enought for her to tell the truth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2006): I think you have to consider whether there are problems in your relationship that "caused" her to give in to the temptation to sleep with her ex bf.
Apparently she now regrets her actions and wants you to forgive her and go ahead with getting married. You need to sit down and talk with her and try to ascertain whether she is likely to do this again at some time in the future.
After all, this is no small slip-up! There is a lot for you to think carefully about in all this.
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