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writes: Hi, Ive been with my fiance three and a half years now, when i met him he was in the forces, id only met him 3weeks before he went away, and in the time he went away i met someone else. I carried on seeing this person all the way through my fiances career in the forces because it was easy, i had a fiance who worked away and came home every so often, but i also had a boyfriend at home too. When my fiance came home his mum and dad had sold there house and moved somewhere else, my fiance moved in with me and my mum and dad, we bought a house 3 months later, all the way through this i carried on seeing this other person, i am happy with my fiance and couldnt wish for it to be better, but i cannot keep away from the other person im seeing, he makes me laugh, hes attractive, he loves me to bits, he knows what situation im in and understands it, he wants me to leave my fiance but doesnt want me to blame him for anything if it all goes wrong, i really dont know what to do?? my friends say leave and go back to your mums you obviously dont love your fiance, but i do love my fiance, i care about him so much, and he worships the ground i walk on, i just dont want to throw all this away and then find out ive made a bad decision, but then again i could be making the best decision of my life??? i dont know what to do......??? help....
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (26 February 2006):
 My dear girl you want the best of both worlds, you know what you are doing is wrong but you cannot stop, the man you are seeing on the side is allowing you to use him and you are doing this.
You know that morally you need to decide which one to be with, you have dangled them both for too long and soon you will be caught, you have been lucky but luck runs out usually when you least expect it.
Having an affair is fun (wrong but fun!) but good grief you have been having a very long run, and you deep down know that a choice has to be made, no one but you can do this and do it you must before you get married, or found out.
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