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writes: My fiance and I broke up about a month ago. He had been together for almost three years. We have a beautiful 5 month old daughter together. He left when she was four months old. I noticed that things were changing a bit while I was pregnant, but everytime I asked him about it he would tell me that we were fine. He would tell me how much he loved me and that he wanted to marry me more than anything. He said all of this up until the night he left. He is a little younger than me and he started to want to go out with his friends more towards the end of my pregnancy and after the baby was born. About a month before he left I had to talk him out of putting a $500 deposit down for a reception hall for our wedding because of money issues. He picked out our wedding invitations and seemed so excited bout the wedding even 2 weeks before he left. The night before he left he held me all night and told me how happy he was that we started a family together and about how much he loved me. The night he left he told me that he had fallen out of love with me. He said that he didn't know how long he had been out of love with me. He came to get the baby a couple of days later and told me that maybe someday we had a future together but he didn't want to work out the problems at this time. He came over to my house a couple of days after that to get some of his stuff. He kept telling me out pretty I was and kept touching my hair and shoulder, but stuck to his "I don't love you anymore" story. About a week went by and I decided to tell him that I had a date with someone else. I really didn't but I wanted to make him jealous. He got really upset about this and started asking me questions like about when I would be home, who it was with, and just things like that. He also told me to remember about the fact that we used to be happy together. This is the point that he started to get unreliable with picking up the baby and coming to see her. He did come over about a week later and told me that he thought it was too early for me to start dating again and continued to remind me that we used to be happy together. Since then, this was 2 weeks ago, he has not showed up to see the baby. He calls and makes plans to see her and then never shows up. His mother has called me a couple of times to talk to me about the baby and then always throws in about how depressed he is about the break-up. I'm sorry this is so long, but I really need to know if he is going to come home to me and his daughter?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2006): No sweetie dont have him come home to you and your baby!
His behaved horribly controling to you!he obviosly just wanted to hurt you he left you and your little baby thats fair enough cos hes got issues! but when your trying to get on with your life he trys to control you because he doesent like to see you happy without him its pathetic just feel sorry for him because of his jelocy jelocy is such a horrible feeling to have its very nasty! he might not even know hes doing to you but he subconcously wants to contol the situation but either way you need to look inside and ask yourself what you want do what you where doing you go on Dates have fun you deserve it. as for his parenting make sure hes being a good Dad and making enough time and effort for your child he should put her first if not have a word with him about it Take care,xx
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