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36-40,
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writes:I'm a dad to a 9-year-old son and his twin brother, (non-identical twins).My fiancee cheated on me with a transman who's now detransitioning back to female, and took the kids with him. I don't know what the full story is, and it's ambiguous if it's an affair or just roommates, or what, my wife hasn't shown sexual interest in women or obvious signs of being a lesbian.The only possible smoking gun is on my wife's Instagram with the individual referring to my wife as "best friend and soulmate 4eva".Not far admittedly, only 8 miles away not another province or another city, but I've got the cops involved when it first happend and am concerned for this.Cops are dealing with this but not at liberty to discuss.It's only been a week since this has happened; and I'm worried, stressed, angry. I don't know where they are, contacted my fiancee by cellphone, no response.I want to be a good dad and don't know what sparked this off.After all, if I left my fiancee to move in with another woman or another guy, my fiancee'd get the cops on me.But there's also an Instagram post my fiancee made which is concerning:"I got the goods on my fiance. GODDAMN YOU, GODAMN U! GO NYORKYANKEES!"My only real support is my best friend Steve, but he's all the way over in Toronto, and I'm in Vancouver.Life feels empty now without my kids, and I'm not even at the empty-nest stage.WTH should I do, apart from the obvious of breaking up with my fiancee?The wedding is booked for mid-2022, now I'm worried about the financial side of things.But when all's said and done, being a dad to my kids is the most important.I love my fiancee, but loved her seems more appropriate here.Not sure what to do for the best, losing hope.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (5 October 2021):
 I will second that.
CALL A LAWYER NOW. Get custody or visitation schedule done now. Make sure you also look into parent alienation so she doesn't pull a "the boys won't see you".
Though I'm not sure this is real. Who says: "I'm a dad to a 9-year-old son and his twin brother, (non-identical twins)."
Why not say I have 2 kids?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2021): I think you need to consult with a lawyer, my friend.
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