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writes: My boyfriend's penis is massive but we're planning on having sex soon. It'd be my first time and i'm so scared. It's painful enough being fingered, i'm worried he'll do actual damage to me. What can we do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (22 May 2006):
 Perhaps you should go ontop... use plently of lube, make sure your really in the mood. If your on top your in control and can take as little or as much as a time that you are ready for, your bound to be apprenshive at first, but gradually and slowly things will turn out and you will wonder what all the worrying was about, maybe expirement on your own for a bit and see what feels comfy for you and then take things at your pace with your man.
Good luck
Take care x
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reader, bonym +, writes (22 May 2006):
 I agree with all answers, willywombat is spot on in my view! Dont worry. xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2006): like WillyWombat said, the vagina can get big enough to accompany a baby... that's pretty big! You'd be surprised... so don't fret. Take it slow, lube helps alot so make sure to have some on hand. If it hurts, let him know... sometimes for the "first time" girls like to be ontop so they can control it, or maybe you want to try missionary so he can control it. Let him know if it hurts, communication is key, and try not to worry too much! :)
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (22 May 2006):
 What they said!
And, especially since this is your first time, don't feel rushed, as if the clock is ticking and you have to go straight to vaginal sex. Lots of people enjoy what's come to be known as "outercourse", which is sex without penetration.
It's perfectly OK to experiment with mutual masturbation and oral sex, until you feel ready to take on this particular challenge. In fact, it might be a good idea for your boyfriend to have had an orgasm at least once before you try for sex with him, so he's more in control and can take things easy.
The only way he can actually hurt you is if he gets rough, but provided you're ready and willing, and he takes things slowly, his penis won't be too big. Don't worry, and don't do anything until you're 100% ready!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2006): If he does actually have a larger than average penis, make sure he takes it easy with you. You will learn which positions are more comfortable for you and which ones feel more comfortable. Don't worry though - he won't actually damage you.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (21 May 2006):
 You cannot be damaged by an overlarge penis...after all a baby can get out of your vagina and I have yet to meet a bloke with a penis the size of a baby's head!
Sex can damage if it is rough or non-consensual sure. But if you both take it slowly and make sure you are properly lubricated you should be ok.
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