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writes: I didnt grow up with my father since he separated from my mum long when we were kids but still we had a good relationship with our father especially after mum passed away.I had a bad marriage since my husband was violent and physically abused me and my daughter so i left and moved in with dad. I was very shocked to learn from my daughter that my father was sexually molesting her. I was very upset by this and we moved out of the house. I wanted to let my father pay for what he has done but my sister and brothers want it to stay in the family. It's been five years now and my daughter is in the university studying a great course, doing so well and has a great guy. I still feel guilty for letting my family pressure me not to act and wished i had done something even though my daughter seem to have moved on. She loves me with all her heart and know i have struggle to make her the woman she is now but i still feel i was a bad mother and didnt protect her enough, perhaps i could have done better afterwards, should i dig up the past? Help me.
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reader, bonnismiles +, writes (29 August 2006):
 hi it not your fault hen you did what you could i have been through a similar act except i was the victim my dad done it to me i was scared of him and i got through it but my mum blamed herself it was not her fault though i never told her and when i did she done something she done her best and thats all you cn do but it aint yyour fault hen cheersxx
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reader, Jadzia1127  +, writes (29 August 2006):
 The best thing you can do is support her. If she wants to talk about it be there for her. If she wants to cut ties stand beside her. You can apologize to her if you haven't. She is an adult and now the choices are her, yet hopefully she has gotten some kind of counselling.
If your father does this thing ever happens again do NOT stay quiet report it to the police. This is not a family matter this is a crime. For a family to push a crime under the carpet is disturbing.
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