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writes:For the last 22 months, I have been involved in LDR with a beautiful American girl and unfortunately she is blind since birth. I met her there when I was visiting the USA for three months in October 2009. It took her 5 days to accept me as boyfriend and we could have easily married then but I didn’t marry her thinking she would take that as matter of me using her to get US Greencard. She is 6 years younger than me and I offered to donate one of my eyes but she cried and stopped me from doing so and wanted to see this through my eyes. …the offer is there for her always. I was with her for two months there and came back in December 2009. Since then, we keep it going through Skype and phone . Three weeks back, she desired that we should get married now because she can’t take this distance anymore and neither me. When I talked to my parents and other family members, then hell brook loose, telling me they would not approve her into our family since she is blind and my entire life would spend taking care of her. I couldn’t take that and made it clear that if they didn’t accept her, I would leave home but the threat didn’t work. Last night, I have decided that I would get married to her in US and also told me girlfriend. She was fine with that but saying she is feeling guilty that because of her my family would disown me. I know they will disown me, but without her my life is nothing. Oh yeah, she was ready to live with me in Pakistan but due to my family's refusal that option is gone now. Dear Cupid, now I have just to take you people precious take on my decision of leaving my family for her, is this a correct decision? Thank you all! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2011): I am the same guy from Pakistan who has posted the the above question . @So_Very_Confused : Yes she has a job there.Besides that, She is damn good writer and can go miles if turns her full attention there. Yes, my friends too have the opinion that my family will turn around once the dust is settled down because blood relations don't end forever but If I leave her true love my life will become a living hell. Even if she stops doing job, still I can easily get job there since I have good degree in hands plus work experience.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (1 September 2011):
 I think you should marry her if that is what you and her want. It is your life you're talking about here, and you must do what will make you happy, and what will make the ones you love happy.
Your family can survive without you. But you may never find such a good love again, and neither this girl. It is a hard decision, but what will make you happy? Will you be able to be with your family if you have to give up the one you love?
Maybe, with the years, your family will come to accept it. Maybe not. But you should do what makes you happy, especially when your family has no real reason to offer for why you should not marry.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (1 September 2011):
 BEFORE you marry (which I think is FINE BTW) perhaps you guys can have a face to face day to day relationship for a while..
I went from and LDR (only 2 hours apart) to together pretty much full time and the transition has been interesting... we do fight more now but we have learned to deal with it.. we also find out things about the other that we did not know.
Does your GF have a job? does she go to school? Just because someone is disabled does not mean they are not productive.
Pardon the pun but your family is being short-sighted
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2011): by all means go ahead!! this is the most romantic story i have heard in a long, long time..but make sure that you are able to support both yourself and your loved one financially, emotionally and physically..best wishes and good luck to the both of you!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2011): Now that's true love ! You are doing the right thing. Nothing and nobody can stop true love...! And I advice you to marry her cause she is blind and she has fallen for you that means she really loves you ! And in this decade no boy like you falls in love with a blind girl or thinks about donating one of his eyes to her ! Don't you dare let her go! Remember nothing can stop true love!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2011): What a beautiful love story! You don't get these very often on here!
I'm afraid you would eventually come to miss your family and perhaps become unhappy in your relationship due to the extra pressure of not being able to see your family.
On the other hand if you find love you should follow it or you'll end up wishing you had for the rest of your life.
Do you think your family would eventually come around? Maybe they just need time?
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