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anonymous
writes:I'm dating the most amazing, nice guy but I don't feel any physical attraction towards him. I'm confused because I haven't met someone so nice in a long time. I don't want to miss out..but then I don't want to settle. What do I do? I feel pressure from family to continue to go out with him. I'm really confused. Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (1 May 2018):
 He’s not your match. Let him go! Maybe you’re in his life to find him his true match?
Tell all your girlfriends how awesome he is and make sure they all know you’re not passing on him for any other reason than he’s not your match.
Maybe then your real match will show up and you’re not wasting his time
As for family pressure, you’re at an age where you are free to ignore it! Be strong!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (30 April 2018):
 You say that he is nice so then don't lead him on. If you are not attracted to him physically then it sounds like he is not the man for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2018): If you really don't feel any attraction for him, he doesn't deserve to be strung along to appease your family.
He deserves better than that. Make sure you aren't just feeling rebellious, and rejecting him only because your family likes him.
It seems people sometimes stop liking people; because they automatically go against their parents' wishes. They only like who their families can't stand. It gives them a false-sense of independence or something.
Make sure you're not being contrary. When he finds someone wonderful to care for him; don't come out of the blue, and try to mess it up with your second-guessing and regrets.
Sorry, but you don't "settle" for nice guys. You settle for less than nice guys. You aren't attracted to him; therefore, you should end it for that reason.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (28 April 2018):
 I'm sure HE doesn't want to settle either. If he is such a nice guy, don't string him along. He doesn't deserve that.
You family are NOT the ones who are dating him.
If you don't feel an attraction or connection, you don't feel it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2018): You must break up with him.It is not fair to you or him.You deserve to have a guy that you love.He deserves to have a woman that really loves him back and is not faking it just to make her family happy.If your family has a problem with it tell them to date him then.Life is short.Stop wasting it with someone you do not love.Keep doing that and you will never find your true love.Always listen to your heart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2018): Stop dating him if you're not attracted, that's just leading him on. Are they trying to set you up to marry you off and get you out of the house? Or do you date around a lot non seriously and they want you to settle down? More info please
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