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*il-angel182
writes:ok well heres the problem, my ex and i broke up about a month ago. It was long distance and lasted for 4 months, my family were against it from the start because of our age difference(i'm 16 he 20) well the reason we broke up was that he wanted me to come down to his but i wasnt allowed till i was 18, so we split. his decision. We started talkin again and tried to be friends things were going well but then my mum found out and she took my fone off of me and told her bf to fone up him and tell him to back off or he would get the police onto him!!So now we have no contact with each other what so ever thanks to my controlling family and i'm only allowed to contact him when i'm 18!! Is there any chance of us being friends after all of this?? I'm findin it very hard to get over not havin him in my life at all, and also that my family would do such a thing to me as when we were going out they all seemed for it and obviously lied straight to my face. I feel like i cant trust them anymore after what they've done and also feel betrayed by them. plus i still have some feelings for him but i know he will move on but how can i?? i feel like i've got nothing left in my life anymore and feel really depressed.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (6 January 2008):
 This is all part of our growing up process.You will survive. Don't worry. Life will go on and there will be better guys whom you will meet in later life.
Time will heal your pains and your broken heart and you will slowly return back to normal again. If you fall down , learn to pick yourself up.It is not the end of the world.God has a purpose for everyone.
Two years is not a long time and it will soon pass....
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2008): Hello there - I hope I can help you a little bit. Your situation is not uncommon. Parents are over protective and don't realise that people your age are actually adults and should be treated with a lot more respect. My advice to you would be to speak calmly with your family about your wishes to keep in contact with this guy and that they cannot stop you doing this. You would like to meet them halfway and agree boundaries. You have deep feelings but appreciate their concerns. This is like negotiating with them - it feels like a massive deal right now - but will stand you in good stead for the future. Soon you will be able to make absolutely your own choices but do not rebel for the sake of it at the moment. I hope things work out for you and you can find ways to stay in touch with this guy.
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