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anonymous
writes:im divorced with a baby and am now living with my parents. i had a very abusive relationship and didnt have any self confidence, anyways ive been divorced 4 yrs now and worked thorugh my proplems with a shrink, whom i dont see any more, anyways ive gotten my confidence and my act back together and i want to do all the things that ive never done, im a free person and a bit reckless ive been squashed my whole life.anyways my parents dont like it, i try to date and they get investigators and stuff fishing out this other guy, if the guy is of a different race that is a huge nono, they dont let me go out late at night they phone me at least once if im out wanting to know when im gonna be back, and this is not about the baby hes in school in the morning and in the afternoons i take him out or the maid or my sister looks after him its not like im not there, they r possesive about me, plus they dont seem to think that im any good at being a mother, they keep on telling me what to do and this gets me so frustrated. anyways i met this guy of a different race and i like him alot, i told him i have a kid hes met him and they both like each other, but my parents get in the way, he once came to the house and my parents found out and went mad and said that i was ruining my life and that im gonna ruin the babys, i listend but havnt stopped seeing him, i dont let him come fetch me anymore, we meet up somewhere, but its a proplem he doesnt really trust me he thinks im cheating on him and this hiding from my parents doesnt make him comfortable he just wants to talk to them and say there i nothing to worry about, but i know my parents and there is, i dont know what to do im not even earning a decent salary that i can move, my boyfriend said that hell help me but not now i need to save money first and get a proper job otherwise things can go bad, witch i agree with him, plse help
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2010): its natural for your parents to want to protect you but speak out! sit them down and tell them your not comfortable with them stopping your relationships. If things get totally unbearable you might have to move out to get your own space. My recommendation is that you get yourself a good paying job and gather up some money so if the worst comes to the worst you will be able to move out. Hopefully though, your parents will understand how you feel about them. Hope everything goes well! :)
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