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writes:how do I talk to my family?I'm 19 (almost 20) and have been seeing a man who is 36 on and off for about a year now. He has an ex-wife and a 5-year-old son who is the most adorable child in the world who both live in another state. About 5 months into the relationship, I talked to my parents about it, and - big shock - they flew off the handle. They are both extremely against the age gap and have threatened to cut off my financial aid for my college tuition, health insurance, and other things... and although I know they would never actually *go through* with these threats, it still hurts quite a lot.About three months ago I told them I was not seeing him anymore, although I am. I am in love with this man and I want to see where the relationship goes on my own terms, not my parents. I feel I am old enough to make my own decisions without needing their approval.How do I go about telling my family that I am in love with this man who is 36 years old? I don't know what to do!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2007): Hi, I think you'd better have a talk with your family though they think it odd that you dating a man who is 17 years older than you. I have met a guy who is 12 years older than me at Agelessmatch.com and I also met the disapproval from my father. I simply told my dad that I had thought long and hard on the age difference and had come to terms with it. I assured my guy that it was not a decision that I entered into lightly. My father respected my decision and never questioned me about it further. So have a try, hope you everything goes well.
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reader, smoooches0814 +, writes (28 September 2007):
 I think you are old enough to make your own decisions. But old enough does not mean wise enough. You are only 19. Don't get me wrong tho, I'm sorta in the same situation. Same age difference and everything. Ithink if you can handle the relationship given its obvious affects on your family and friends and especially yourself, then go for it. Remember, you are the only person that should matter. Your family has a right to tell you what they feel. After all they helped raise you and the only reason they worry is because they don't want you to get hurt in the end. They are skeptical is all it is. This man has a 5 year old child, this does not mean he wants you to be a 2nd mother, but you should consider the fact that he does have prior commitment to this child. Men will come and go, your family and closest friends will always be there. Most importantly, you'll be there. And you'll be alone some of the time while your family is saying "I told you so." Just remember, your feelings and your heart is all that you have, don't waste it away on something you're not sure about. Make the right decision. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2007): My freind dated an man aged 36 when she was 15 so I guess the age diffrence between you and your B/F better. But personally I'd be put off by the fact he'd already been married and has a child. I can't blame your parents for not liking it, If my sister dated someone like your b/f I wouldn't be happy either! I'm 18 and can't see why you want to date an guy with all that baggage, just tell your parents you like old guys! its not like you can help if you like old men.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2007): It seems you are in a big dilemma. Have you ever asked for some expert advice from online sites? I know Agematch.com is the one for people to find and discuss age gap relationships. Maybe you can more suggestions from it.
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