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writes:Im 25 woman and have 2 younger brother with 3 years gap respectively. We live with our successful and happy family. Everybody will think that our family is beyond perfect. Many thinks that my parent succeed raising us.Otherwise. Theres a differences on how my parent treat us. I mean. Im a girl they bought me things that i like and not so with my brother but i think they prefer my brothers than me. My dad prepared all the financial and future for my brothers and me? I just got what i want for now. My mom even cooked specially for my btother and not for me. Once she even forbid me to eat something and said that its for my brother. I feel treated like a second best for them. My dad would give his money to my brothers and as a girl maybe i got none or less. My mom has a very sharp tongue especially when we are arguing. She deliberately said to me that its because im a girl and i would be marry someday and i would not be living with them and my brothers will stay with them so they kind of prefer son than me. She even said that she thinks i wouldnt marry because of my attitude which is when i confront her something she cant deny or reject that its her mistakes. She underestimate my fiance because hes not successful and wealthy like them. Its because my fiancee is dependent enough to stand on his feet abd dont rely on parents money like my brothers do. Whenever i dont do what she said she said i wont live like that forever and i would have miserable life after marry to my fiance. But she also afraid if i dont get marry because shes ashame of having a daughter who stay at home with them forever. My brother had show disrespect and betrayal for our family when hes in relationship with his ex girlfriend which my parent forbid. He steal money and lie to my parent all the time. He argued and fight with my parents daily.I think shes just ashamed of my fiance or maybe she hates to have daughter. Yes theres times shes so warm and kind to me like other mother did. But when shes emotional shes like evil trying to make me depressed. Personally i really care for my family and i did my best for them. But they kind of disrespect it but when my brother did a little thing they would brag and so proud of them. Other people said that when i get marry someday they would miss me so much because theres none people cook for them and helping them anymore they just smile. My parent know that im the smartest and wiser between 3 of us. They always discuss crucial things with me before they take desicion and often they follow my idea and advice. They seldom discuss it with my brother.They make me so sad and sometime jealous of my own brother. I feel used. I dont know what i really feel. I dont know why im writing this.
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (10 November 2015):
As you stated your parent knows that you are the smartest and the wiser of the 3 of you.Because of this you are not getting much attention and you feel left out.But they know you are well able to fend in a wise way for yourself.Its not that your mother loves you less -rather she is giving more attention to those who need her help the most.A mother will be drawn to a weaker son/daughter more.As you stated you are wise-now would you consider sitting down and having an indept chat with your mum and telling her how you feel and maybe you can help each other.Best wishes NORA.B.
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