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writes:I have been going out with this man for almost two years. He tells me he loves me and we talk about the future, but He lives on an island which I travel to once a week for work, which is how we met. He owns a restaurant there and has one high school aged kid at home every other week. Things have been going well and recently we went to Europe for a two week vacation. We generally only spend a couple nights during the week together and then every other weekend, due to his kid being there on that weekend. I have been understanding that he doesn't want me to be there every weekend because he wants to spend time with his son, as he only has him alternate weeks. He is 16 yrs old and driving now. We spent 17 nights together in Europe and now we are back to the same routine, where I only see him here and there and alternate weekends and still have to be invited up there. I recently learned that one of his staff and he almost had a thing together the year before he met me...and there is still sexual tension, and she is in his group of friends. She is 18 years younger than him. They sometimes hang out with friends as they are in the same circle. Since returning from Europe and I was not there for a week, he was out having dinner or drinks with his friends after work and every night he called he mentioned Kendra....I got mad and said you spend more time with Kendra than you do with me, and I am supposedly your girlfriend...we talked about it and he said I have nothing to feel threatened by, but his dog passed away yesterday and Kendra is making him and his son dinner to console them tonight as I write this...and it is upsetting to me that once again, he is with her during a time I feel we should be together. Am I just being paranoid or does this concern about all this time with Kendra make sense? Reply to this Question
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (8 November 2015):
 "we talked about it and he said I have nothing to feel threatened by..." SURE... and it don't snow in Minneapolis in the winter-time....
Good luck.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2015): I am not a jealous person at all, but I would feel a litle uneasy about this situation.
I would not feel comfortable being in a couple with a man I did not trust fully. I think you should talk to your partner and tell him exactly how you feel. Make sure he knows it is upsetting to you.
If he cares enough for you then he will understand and be able to put your mind at rest. Otherwise, a relationship that is built on mistrust is not one that will last.
Anyone can be driven to jealousy, and once you are there it is difficult to get rid of. Do not allow it to get hold of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2015): I totally get this - he shouldn't be getting his comfort with this girl about this! It should be u! Have you met the son? None of this sounds ok to me...and u still have to wait to be invited? He is disrespecting you and your relationship, and what you need to consider is, iscthis acceptable to you ? How much do u love him.....
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