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anonymous
writes:Hi all. Ive lost my boyfriend of 7 years through suicide last year october 2013. Since then never dated. His best friend has shown sme signs that he wants to be with me cause recently he has broken up with his girlfriend and always tells me that we have go out cause everything happens for a reason. He has everything would love but for me i dont have even a dot of love for, i just like him as he was my late boyfriend's friend. I just dont feel anything for him. Ive just develop feeling for my tenant even though he doesnt know. He stays in my house as ive moved out to heal and grieve for what has happen. My problem with him is that his too arrogant but i think i just like him, just waiting for him to make the first move cause im old fashioned and i hate to be dissapointed. My family advice me to go for my late biyfriends friend cause i know him as he doesnt have any kids and his life is in order but my heart has fallen so much deeo for my tenant. Evvery month he comes into my parents home to drop off the rental money he always make sure that he calls just to make sure that im there. Im confused, who must i go for?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2014): I don't think either of these guys are right for you. The first one you are not attracted to and do not have any feelings for. The second is in a business relationship with you, so that would be complicated if you added a personal relationship.
That said, I don't think you should ever accept a date from the first guy. He isn't right for you & will get hurt if you lead him on. Also too much ties him to your late boyfriend and it will be harder to move on from that.
If the second guy gets a new place, and is no longer someone who rents from you then I think you should ask him out. Don't be afraid, just do it! It may not be a long relationship if he is an arrogant jerk like you imply, but maybe he will turn out to be a lot of fun for you, and I think he could help you get over your late boyfriend and back out there on the dating scene.
Good luck!
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