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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Right here it goes.. I was going out with this lad for a really long time. We were so close and he is my first ever love. We broke up now just over a month and within that month there has been alot of big and small arguements. A then went out with this guy for one night and he completely flipped but apparently he had a new girl and every time I asked him he couldn't answer me straight.. Ever since then I have regretted it and cried nearly all of the nights and he just won't talk to me... On msn we chated but he told me to go and die and if he was a we girl he would have me dead and that the time we spent together was a waste and I had to options to either leave him alone or go and not come back.. I don't know why but when he says all this I can't hate him I just forget about it and try to get something sorted out of everything that's happened. We were just so close and I trusted him with everything. No one understands how i feel but I can't take it anymore cause he won't talk to me... Please help me I really need it??
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (20 February 2010):
 Hi sweetness,
The best you can do right now is back off and give yourself and him some time. If you chill out, your heated emotions can go down and you can see your feelings as they really are. Maybe some time will give him the space to realize that he misses you and that he's sorry for the way he treated you.
But really, you can't let a guy talk to you like that. He doesn't seem like the nicest guy ever - even if he's wonderful when you're not fighting. A guy shouldn't tell you that he wants you to die and leave and not come back, etc. That's a load of crap that comes from a jerk who wants to say things just to hurt you... he needs time to grow up and learn how to be a real man - one who doesn't play the "let's be nasty" game.
The pain you're experiencing is totally normal and expected. But, the only thing that will take that pain away is time and space from each other. Good luck, sweetness!
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