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writes:where do i start its a long story , iv been trying to get a hold of my x for the longest time we did not part well, anyway we had been together for 4 yrs friends befor that so finly did reach him we stared talking again he said he would come and see me . so he did at the time i was seeing someone wasnt working long story short my x told me that he wanted tp work things out and that when had time he would come back so i waited to here from him and noththing i even changed my number got a hold of him well he gave his best fried my number cuz he didnt want to deal with me anymore and his friend and i like eachother only problem is that he is married well my x doesnt like that idea and went off on me and his friend so what should i do iv been seeing his best friend also his still living with his wife help me please.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (29 November 2013):
 30-35? Really? this question sounds as if it came from someone much younger.
OP, I don't know why your ex would be giving you his friends' phone numbers, especially if they're married. And I don't know why you're calling them.
Cease all contact with the married man and any other friends of the ex you're still in touch with. Then cease all contact with your ex.
Problem solved.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2013): Your ex went off on you for already open wounds shared between you, bad history, and the fact you're instrumental in ruining his friend's marriage. It's like you don't realize there something wrong with that.
To say it's none of his business isn't exactly true; because he more or less set it up.
You don't know what to do? I'll give you a hint. Stop dating a married man.
Another suggestion is to end contact with your ex; so he can't interfere in your life.
In most soap operas of this type, the mistress usually mysteriously disappears, or the wife seeks horrible revenge.
Stick around for the drama; or get out while you still have a whole skin, and a full head of hair.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (29 November 2013):
 Well, I think your EX have NO say in who you mess around with, but it's kind of sad that YOU don't see the problem in messing with a married man yourself.
Both guys are trouble. It's SUPER drama and you have put yourself right in the middle..
Only one who can pull yourself out of the drama, is you.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (29 November 2013):
 How strange, he gave your number to his friend because he didn't want to deal with you anymore (how un-charming), and then disapproved when his you and his friend hit it off. Why did he give your number to his best friend anyway, knowing he is married?
Both of these guys sound disrespectful. Your ex is disrespectful in his behaviour to you, and his best friend is being very disrespectful to his wife.
I'd cut them both out of your life immediately. The ex isn't interested, the other guy is married. I don't know why you changed your number the first time but I think you should do it again. Cut contact, move on to pastures new.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (29 November 2013):
 Your ex has no say in your life. No need to have contact with him. You don't need his approval or permission to live your life.
OTOH, maybe you should ask the wife of the man you are seeing what she would like you to do about her husband.
I think you need to go NO CONTACT with both of these men.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (29 November 2013):
 Cut all contact with the ex, he is an ex for a reason, for him to tell you to wait for him, and then you not hear anything for a long time says your ex is unreliable. Add to that the fact he doesn't want to deal with you any more, just don't have anything to do with him, OK?
Now the married man problem, maybe you should stop seeing him as well, give him some space to decide if he wants to be married or not.
Stay away from both these men, they are both bad news!
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