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writes:So i dated this guy i really liked for a month then he broke up with me,because he liked this girl he worked with and thought he had a chance with her. thought i found this out after, he actually lied about the reason he was breaking up with me. (needing time for himself ect.) fast forward 3 months later when im fine with out him and not missing him anymore. hes coming back into my life calling me everynight, and flirting with me online. my problem is im confused, i wanted him back so bad and tryed so hard to get rid of my feelings for him and now when im feeling better he wants to get back with me? talk about bad timing. i'm just scared that i dont know what his true feelings for wanting me again, Is he bored, like trying to kill time untill he finds someone better? and i don't really know if i even have feelings for him still or am i still trying to push my feelings down as a denfense. please help, should i back away or try again?he still make me feel good.
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reader, alexx_sweetie89 +, writes (17 November 2008):
alexx_sweetie89 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmoongoddess, thank you. It helps to hear that from someone else. and i will definatley be taking your advice. Last night this jerk was calling me trying to have phone sex! he was serious. i dont think that would be the right approach in trying to get somebody back. also he told me that people were telling him that i still liked him. he just has one of the biggest egos in anybody ive ever met. and i just don't feel comfortable around him. He really does seem like hes trying to use me and is being really unsensitive.
ps. i'll be fine, im in college! there are tons of guys to choose from, no use in trying to dig up the past.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (15 November 2008):
In my opinion it could go either way.
He could have realised he's made a mistake and want you back, or he may just want an easy lay.
Why not ask him about your break up and tell him how hurt you were. If he is genuinely sorry and says he is prepared to put time and effort in to regain your trust, and going on dates and not having sex for several weeks to prove he is serious about you then give it a go.
But if he puts a foot out of line then beware!
Good Luck!! xx
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