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writes: Hello dearest cupids!Need some opinions...My ex and I broke up 6 months ago. We've both gone through the motions. He has now finally admitted that he seemingly lack of commitment was due to insecurities that he has. He says he realizes he's mistakes now and wants to be with me.I'm so confused. Do we stand another chance?Please help beautiful cupids out there. I am at a cross roads here...Thanks so much.
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reader, kellyO +, writes (4 August 2013):
Hi dear
Think about the last 6 months without him. How did you feel during those 6 months? relieved or sad? Do you still love him?Also think about all the issues you had in your relationship write it down one by one. Is it a long list? Do you really think he will change? Are all issues just his lack of commitment or more? What does your closest friend or family think about him do they think he is worth giving him another chance? Sometimes trusted friends/family can give better advise.Only you can decide but if these questions are giving all the wrong answers then you shouldn't go for it.
but if you do decide to a relationship another chance please make sure you let him know everything he has done in the past that you couldn't handle and try to get a real commitment of change from him. Don't hold anything back.
All the best
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2013): Well in general, whatever the problem, it would really depends on you. Why? because it depends on the sincerity of your ex. and only you will be able to weigh his sincerity.
If you still love him and you think its worth a try then give him another a chance, and go for it.
But if you think his being insincere, the throw away the idea of giving him another chance to hurt you ONCE More.
How to tell if his sincere?
Test the waters.
Give him a hard time. just a bit.
If stick around then it means his sincere to death to have you back.
If he don't well it only means his bored and lonely.
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2013): Well in general, whatever the problem, it would really depends on you. Why? because it depends on the sincerity of your ex. and only you will be able to weigh his sincerity.
If you still love him and you think its worth a try then give him another a chance, and go for it.
But if you think his being insincere, then throw away the idea of giving him another chance to hurt you ONCE More.
How to tell if his sincere?
Test the waters.
Give him a hard time. just a bit.
If stick around then it means his sincere to death to have you back.
If he don't well it only means his bored and lonely.
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2013): I think you really need to give more details and explain what these insecurities are.
What lead up to a breakup?
Leaving out details isn't going to get you good answers.
I don't believe in telling people what they want to hear. I review the facts you've provided, and how you feel. Then I try to formulate advice that will not only help you; but will provoke you to think, and come up with your own answers.
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