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writes:I broke up with a girl in May after dating for 2 years. We were done for 4 months and then things happened that made me think we were getting back together, but it really only lasted for 2 or 3 weeks before she called it off again. It's been about 2 months since that time. I talked to her yesterday about life and she told me she'd made a couple stupid mistakes that she'd gotten over. So me being the stupid person that I am just had to know what she did, so eventually she told me that about a month ago she hooked up with a guy from her college dorm floor because she was lonely and because he was there. She said it was a bad decision and she realized how much of a jerk he was because he just wanted to get into her pants.I don't really know why I wanted to know so badly, but now that I do I'm feeling a mixture of things. I didn't go off on her, I actually stayed pretty calm, because I'm not really allowed to get mad. She asked what my opinion was and I told her that I sort of get why she did it, but it doesn't really excuse it. I said it made me question things about her character that I wouldn't have before. But anyways, now the next day I feel horrible. I realize that I didn't even know about it and it was a month ago, but still hearing about my ex just randomly being with someone else is hurtful.Anyone have any helpful advice for how to deal? The first girlfriend I had never did anything like this (or if she did I never heard about it) so I haven't experienced anything quite like it before.
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (22 December 2008):
 Even if she's not with you, life goes on. You can't expect her to do nothing.
What you're feeling right now is the feeling of being betrayed which you should ask yourself why you feel that way.
The easiest way not to have those feeling is to not keep contact with exs.
Prevention is always better than prescription.
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