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writes:I have tried for almost a yr. now to move on and stop loving my ex who left me for someone else. Although, he didn't become romantically involved with her till after ending it with me she was in the picture before hand. I have not spoken to or made contact in anyway with him since finding out about her but, he has continually driven by my house and sent random texts to me even though, he has been living with her. Rumor has it from his family and friends that he is not happy in his new relationship but, whether that is true or not is what confuses me the most. His new gf has posted on fb that they have set the date to be married. She posted on fb three mths. after him leaving me that they were engaged but, never posted anything again since until this past wk. (almost a yr. later) that they have set the date to marry soon and posted pics of them together. If this is the way it is than why is he still coming around checking on me and texting me?Could it be that it is her that is pushing this ahead and could it be that since he feels he has burned all his bridges with me, he might as well go ahead and marry her? I am feeling very anxious and confused about all this- I don't know whether I should just continue to ignore him and let things happen with her as they may or break no contact and let him know that I still love him. I am definitely not looking to make a fool of myself if my suspicions are wrong. Recently, I passed him on the road and he just about broke his neck looking at me and the look on his face was of sadness and as if he was hoping for some kind of gesture from me. I didn't know how to respond so I ended up just looking his way and then felt afterwards like I should of at least waved. Knowing him, he will not come forth unless I give him an indication that he will not be rejected because he knows that he hurt me terribly but, my pride is standing in the way. Can anyone give me some insight or advice on how I should handle this situation? I know that most will say to just continue moving on but, because I still have strong feelings for him and the thought that he will be marrying soon has generated strong feelings in me to not pass up the chance to stop that marriage from happening and to get him back. I had 7 yrs. invested in that relationship and was also, engaged to marry him and to just hand him over to her on a silver platter just tears my insides out. Please, your help would be most appreciated.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (17 April 2011):
Let him carry on and ruin his own life instead of allowing him back into yours and inevitably give you more heartache, because that's what will happen.
I know you spent a long time together, but he has treated you badly. Why on earth do you want to put yourself through that again? He won't have changed.
You do have to continue moving on and this may be hassle, but it might be worth changing your phone number so he can't contact you.
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