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writes:I recently got in contact with an old flame. We dated many years ago and both never really got over each other. He lives in a different city with his girlfriend. Im single. He says he loves me and wants us to be together but not right now. He says he wants to get everything organized,(his job,leaving her etc...) how long should I give him? How would I know that he's sincere about wanting to be with me? He rarely talks about his girlfriend and we talk everyday... Reply to this Question
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reader, floraltemptaions  +, writes (5 May 2007):
While I agree with CD... I do also have to warn you of one thing.... if he'll do it to her, he'll do it to you. Even though he may be an old flame, it seems he's got some wandering eyes/hands... and the grass is always greener on the other side for him. I have a friend that is like this, he can't just be (live) alone, so as soon as one relationship gets rocky, he catches another before leaving the first. Make sure he has good intentions with you... and that he's not just having his cake and eating it too, don't waste your life waiting for him. SEt yourself a time-line....it shouldnt take him more then a couple months to leave her, and at least be on his own before moving in with you. Best of luck to you!
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reader, cd206  +, writes (5 May 2007):
 Well I can't see why he would say he was leaving her if he wasn't but I don't think you can give him an ultimatum considering the amount he has to give up to be with you. He's making a huge sacrifice and it seems to me that the least you can do is be patient with him.
CD
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