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writes:this question is for my friend as she doesnt have an account on here.Shes 15 and her boyfriend is 16. Sheloves him alot and they've been together since she was 13 and he was 14.In the beginning of their relationship he would appreciate her, he always told her he loved her, but now he does show his friends but he doesnt show his affection towards her. He may not realise it but she wants it back. Shes been asking me for advice all night and i thought of asking the question on here. He shows his friends that he cares, he would tell them that he loves her but he wouldnt actually show her that he loves her he would just show everyone else. She doesnt wanna tell him because she thinks it will just go into an argument.How does she deal with this problem? How should she tell him? and what should she say? thanks x Reply to this Question
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reader, cd206 +, writes (5 May 2007):
 Well she has to talk to him.... it's the only way... but it neednt descend into an argument because it takes two people to argue and if she doesn't want it to happen then it won't. I guess I'd suggest something along the lines of "Hey X, is everything okay between us? You seem a little bit less affectionate recently and it makes me feel sad" Tell her not to raise her voice or get upset and maybe practise this with her before she does it to her boyfriend. Also make sure that she's aware that although relationships are often very affectionate at the beginning this does tend to fade the longer the relationship goes on. It's natural. The most important thing in a relationship is caring about each other and you say he tells his friends he cares for her which is the most vital thing. The key thing to remember is not to be too clingy and not to get upset or raise your voice, then an argument is impossible.
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