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writes:I wrote a couple of days ago about how my ex was emailing me. We broke up a little more than a week ago but now he keeps emailing me to see how I'm doing and wanted to call me last night but he didn't. I know he'll start calling me again. If I email him back, I keep it short and sweet and end my emails first. I haven't been emailing or calling him first and he's been doing all the work. When he broke up with me he said that he would like to remain friends but we couldn't talk for a while and I'm going by his wishes. But, now he won't stop contacting me! Any guys or girls out there that can help me figure this out, please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2007): He broke up with you..and that must have hurt you like hell. He won't stop emailing you because you are his pacifier, for his own needy feelings of lonliness. That's all it is. He's split up with you, but he's trying to deal with missing the relationship. This is 'his' problem, not yours. You will have to muster up some willpower, some smarts, pride here and tell him...no more contact. Quit allowing yourself to be his security blanket. I am seeing a guy here, who is in emotional turmoil that he caused himself and he can't deal with it. If he's not phoning, emailing or texting you to say, "hun, I'm sorry, I made a mistake..I apologize..I love you..let's try again", then think about losing contact today. Because he in effect, he is using you to heal himself and his constant prescence will hinder your healing process and recovery. This is the time to think of you. I know there's a part of you that likes the fact that he is missing you, but really look long and hard at what he's actually doing. This is all about him and his feelings. If he loved you truely, he's be by your side right now, as we speak. But no, instead he is the man who just broke it off with you, a few weeks ago and he's making no move to come back, is he? See it for what it really is...
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