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writes:I was in relationship with a guy for a couple of years. I was so crazy on him like I loved him so madly and I trusted him to the core. But he broke up with me and went with other girl. First it was so hard for me even I tried committing suicide. But my parents saved me. Then I understood why the hell should I give up my life for the one don't deserve me.Then I just started concentrating on my life I kept myself busy all day. But still somehow something made me to think about him. One day my ex called me saying that he misses me and leaving me was the biggest mistake he ever done. He apologised me. I didn't know what to say I kept quite. He said he wanted to meet me and asked me to come for a lunch. I went too. It was good seeing him again. Those memories flowed back.He behaved like a friend. But I saw him as totally mine when he was with me. I don't know why. We talked about how our life going and he said his love too going good. Even though I was upset I was happy to see him again.As while leaving we looked into each others eyes. We ended up with kissing. I don't know why i did that. I know he is not my guy now. But when he held my hands while saying bye. I don't know whether I regret this but it makes me to think of him again and again. What should I do now?
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reader, Abella  +, writes (4 June 2015):
 Keep on building your inner strength because you need it for when you encounter a manipulator like him.
Yes he turned on the charm.
Yes he did his best to make to say the things he hoped would push your buttons.
But gee he left you earlier feeling so very sad.
Previously he left you and quickly found another girl, not caring, then, how devastated he left you feeling.
Previously he has shown a callous disregard for the hurt he inflicted on you.
His actions in the past were evidence of poor judgement.
Now he is doing the same again, admitting that his love is going well, still seeing one girl, while trying to re-engage you, with his attention, perhaps wishing to see you again, on the side.
You have shown the strength to rebuild your life and go forward in your life, without him.
There are many guys who will treat you well, who will choose to be faithful and cherish you.
Now show the strength to turn your back on him.
Because last time he caused you such pain.
This time you were flattered by his attention.
I think do not drop your guard if this guy approaches you again.
Perhaps he has been feeling guilty about how much he hurt you. (though I doubt it)
Perhaps he's had a disagreement with the girl he is dating right now.
I think he is just keeping his options open, thinking he can use you, if the circumstances are right.
From every angle I think it's best that you regard him as closed chapter in your life.
Instead keep an eye out for a guy who demonstrates that he's honourable, able to be trusted and is respected by his peers. A guy who will treat you with the utmost respect, to your face, and when he is away from you.
There are nicer guys in the world, than this guy, who, in the past, treated you so poorly.
You deserve a much better man in your life, than this man.
You know that to be true.
Deep down he knows that it's true too.
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reader, Tee_123  +, writes (2 June 2015):
How long after breaking up with you did he say that he wanted you back? (Just out of curiosity.)
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reader, YouWish +, writes (29 May 2015):
 DON'T DO IT! This guy is a lying, cheating, scumbag. He ditched you to be with this other girl (you didn't tell me if he was cheating on you, but it's likely), and now he's kissing you BEHIND HIS GIRLFRIEND'S BACK??? How can a guy apologize while continuing his disgusting treatment of you and her??
You need to run away from this guy fast, because attempting suicide for him means you weren't healthy with him, and this is REALLY not healthy. The guy wants to USE YOU, which means he's wanting to treat you worse than when he ditched you the first time.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (26 May 2015):
 WHY???.... would you consider spending even ANOTHER MINUTE with a guy who treated you like this??????
You can - and should - find a nicer guy to spend your time with....
Good luck...
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (26 May 2015):
 You should cut contact with him. His ideal is to have two girlfriends. One official, steady one and the other secretive with no strings attached. He did not regret his break up. He just said it so you would allow him to kiss you and hold you, which you shouldn't have. Try to differentiate your loving feelings, your wanted to be loved from the actual guy he is. He is a cheater. He crossed the boundary with you. It doesn't matter if you are his ex and he once belonged to you. He still cheated on his current girlfriend.
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