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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I need some serious help! I have been with the father of my child for 4 yrs... he was very verbally and physically abusive so I left and moved in with my mother and my son from a previous. we still tried to maintain a relationship and he promised that he would change and of course he never did. during the course of this he and I had a daughter. now he thinks he owns me. I'm sick and I'm tired of living in this way. we are no longer together and even though I love him I'm not stupid I won't go back. he refuses to let me move on... tells me I'm a w____ stupid calls me fat and ugly. I wish that I could move on but can't I'm afraid not only to get in to another one of these types of relationships or that he can possibly kill me. he threatens me on a daily basis he watches me when I think no 1 is. I've called the cops and nothing. I haven't physically seen him in 2 months but he seems to know where I am and what I am doing. he tells me to stop being afraid and acting like he is an animal. he's given me a time frame to which I have to "straighten up" or he says that he will catch me and is going to hurt me badly. he says he won't allow our daughter to be raised by a w____ like me and that after he gets rid of me he will take himself out. I don't know if he's serious but I'm terrified constantly looking over my shoulder when I leave the house or work. I have no money I cannot move, police won't do anything. I've tried to talk to him rationally but he refuses to let me talk and says that he will free me when he feels like it. what am I going to do please someone anyone help?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2008): This guy is feeding off of your fear. He doesn't know what real love is. You need to be careful of him, because he is unstable and could do something harmful. I've found the best way to deal with a guy like this is to treat him with 'respect'. I know this sounds strange, but for protection for yourself and daughter, there's wisdom to not 'set him off'.
Let things cool off. Sometimes emailing rather than confrontations are better to work through problems..., if he continues to be threatening, I would speak to a 'womens' abuse center' Someone you feel comfortable talking too. From what I've heard, they tell you how to have a 'plan' to keep you safe.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (25 September 2008):
 Sorry for your awful situation. I really don't know how to help you other than to suggest that you start making notes of the conversations he has with you. If you can, record them, letting him know that he is on a recorded line. Keep a record of your phone bills too. Make sure that your close friends and family are aware of your situation and his threats, so they can keep an eye out too.
Now, for some help from people who know what to suggest and can point you at some local resources, I strongly suggest that you contact this organization.
National Domestic Violence Hotline.
Phone 1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233).
Website http://www.ndvh.org.
I believe that other women have managed to get away from abusive men even with no money. I hope that you contact them tonight and get yourself a plan to be safe.
Take care
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