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female
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36-40,
*ryder
writes:Hi guys, basically I have been seeing my now ex boyfriend for 8 months, he is the most caring loving honest person ever. I have trust issues due to my past and I accused my boyfriend almost everyday of cheating on me, fancying my friends and even his cousin, he never gave me any reason not to trust him and let me look through his phone and Facebook. He ended up feeling so drained and upset from all of this that he broke up with me 3 weeks ago saying that maybe in the future we could be together but he couldn't live the way he was anymore. (he was crying all the time) I thought he would change his mind and he didn't, he said we could stay friends as he wanted to help me sort out my issues. Yesterday we talked and he told me he went out on the weekend and got really drunk and kissed a girl, he said it was nothing and he is sorry and regrets it but felt I deserved to know the truth. He had asked to try again now I'm getting professional help but I can't help but feel he let me down by kissing someone else soon after we split, that he could move on quickly? My friends think it's a good sign that he was honest even though we are split up but I hate thinking of him with someone else. Please help x
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (23 August 2011):
 Well he was not your bf when he kissed another girl.
He told you because he wanted to be honest with you if you are going to give your relationship another chance.
He kissed another girl while drunk. I can see why it would bother you, but he really did not let you down. He was not sober. If he was, he might have made a different choice.
He really was'nt with someone else-he just kissed another body. He still chooses YOU.
You do mention that you have trust issues and are seeking professional help. You could mention to your counselor that you are struggling with insecurities regarding your bf's faithfulness.
Give your bf some grace, there is really nothing to forgive because he did nothing wrong.
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