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writes: I need a little help on how to tackle my gay ex. I am 33 and he is 21 and we have recently split after six months.He ended it by simply not turning up at arranged times - preferring to go out with his friends. He has had a lot of problems at work, the death of his grand-dad and his dad hit him over Christmas. His problems really did take over our relationship.I have been the brave one and resisted from getting in touch. Until last week when he sent me a long e-mail asking how I was. We arranged to meet for a drink this week but as expected he called it off saying he had been out all day and was tired, asking if we could put it off for another week.When I did not respond to his text within five minutes he texted me again asking if I had received it!Later that night I discovered that he had indeed been in town and had spent the night at a girlfriend's. Why does somone arrange to meet, set a time and day and then suddenly call it off and lie?We had a great, honest relationship but he is suddenly lying to me. Things ended so abruptly and he has not really been man enough to sit down and talk.I have texted him saying it is now up to him if he wants to meet, saying that I will no longer contact him. But on the other hand I am dying to text him to let him know that I know he was out when he said he was at home. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2006): That's such an easy question. It's so self-explanatory. Stop seeing him! I mean, how hard is that?! "My ex keeps wanting to meet up and then making excuses for not turning up. What should i do?" How do you want us to answer that??! Pretty obvious don't you think?
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reader, shania  +, writes (22 February 2006):
 This ex of yours is playing games.....if he really wanted to see you then he would of done...no matter what.He broke off the arrangement...and lied because he was in town with a girlfriend of his.You have done everything....i wouldnt txt him,even though your dying to....the ball is in his court now...wait and see...but dont wait forever....if he cant be bothered because he wants a reaction off you then i would just walk away...you have been fair to him,but you have your pride as well.Let him do the running...in the mean time...go out and have fun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2006): He is completely selfish and immature! I think he wants to see how you're doing just to check if you moved on. He just wants to see how you will respond to him, whether you are still interested. He gets some satisfaction just from knowing that you would see him if he wanted, even though he has no intention of actually seeing you.I think if he contacts you again (which he probably will if you ignore him), tell him you know what he was up to. Get it out in the open, make him respond to that, it'll give you some satisfaction. He'll either appologize or be full of excuses. Either way, afther that, don't ever bother with him again. Even though he's been through a lot of things that probably messed him up, that's no excuse to treat you that way. You don't need someone messing with your emotions like that. Be strong!
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