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writes: My ex often call me recently. What is he thinking? What should I do?We're broke up for a month with good memory. Recently, he often calls me. I have no clue what he is thinking. Is he still love me? I think I still love him but I don't want to be hurt anymore. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2008): I agree he wants relief of being tormented from his loneliness, the very thought of the possiblity of you having someone new inyour life, and his own selfishness. Tell him to stop calling you. If he wants you back and he has changed, his character will show up and you won't have to say anything about him changing. ai thinkthat you should develop a relationship with yourself. Build you up, find about who you really are so that your self esteem won't allow you to settle.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2008): well if he has changed at all i suggest giving him another chance. IF he has made no effor to change or fix what the problem was then i would go NC. everyone deserves another chance even if they have messed up a lot. Showing you are trying to change is huge in a relationship. We all have things that are not perfect about us.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): I'm in the same thing.... i just got out of a relationship yesterday...and my ex called me almost 20 times. I still care for him so its hard talking to him. I think if you still have feelings for him you should tell him and if he doesn't care then ask him why he's still calling.
Maybe he still loves you.......lol gurl i'm just as confussed as you are!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2008): Hey! I am in the same situation -- mutual break-up, agreed to be friends, but with unfinished emotional business. The reason why he calls is the following:- He dated you in the first place because he liked you, and still does.- He is still hung up on you because your relationship didn't get bad enough for the bad to override the good.- He misses the 'idea' of you. In other words, he misses having an intimate around.Now, none of these reasons are good enough for you to get back together. So this is what I do:- Remain civil; always answer his calls.- Be perfectly honest with your feelings. If maintaining contact is too painful, tell him.- Move on. This may require you to sever ties with him for a while. In fact, it may be the only way to fully heal and mature. But you cannot make this decision if you are going to fall back into your 'relationship' with him, so it's best if the both of you agree to sever ties. If it's meant to be, then you will both find yourselves back together.Good luck! I'm just as confused as you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007): He Still Loves You.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): I think you should ignore his calls. If you were hurt before you will most likely be hurt again by him. Why go through the whole cyclw again. Just move on!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2005): You all sound very naive to me. Your ex is calling because he wants his cake and he wants to eat it too. You mentioned in your post that he did things to hurt you when you were together. I'm guessing you broke up with him (or even if he broke up with you it's not really a big difference). Your ex is feeling lonely and sorry for himself. Do you find that he calls you the most when he's alone, or his friends are busy, or during the week rather than on the weekend. Can you call him whenever you want and always reach him? Exes call because they want to make themselves feel better knowing that they still have you around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2005): I am passing through the same thing...the only thing is if you don't like him anymore like a boyfriend. Just make him know you just want him as a friend without benefits. If you still like him, think things again and see if you guys would do it ok together again. If he calls you is because he hasn't forgotten about you. He still loves you.
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reader, becky05 +, writes (9 July 2005):
Sounds like he cant make a clean break from you.If you want to try again, tell him that, if he says no, ask him to stop calling and forget about him.
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