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female
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30-35,
*pendy
writes:What is wrong with me? is this normal? ?I've never been the kind of girl to get turn on or want sex. But my last boyfriend was different. He turned me on so much. Everything about him turned me on. His voice, his smell, his kisses, his touch.I loved him so much and he was the first guy that's ever made me feel that way. My other ex boyfriends would spend hours trying to turn me and sex became a chore for us.But with my previous bf everything happened naturally he didn't have to do much. I wanted him whenever I was around him and I've never felt that way about anyone else.Anyway, I'm with this new guy and I feel nothing sexually. I don't think about sex. I don't want it. I feel so empty. I'm over my ex bf. What is wrong with me? Will I ever meet someone else who would make me feel like my ex did?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2012): I am 21 and have been with several men. I also have the same problem as you. I have only ever truly been turned on and had sex that was pleasureful with one person. For me, it was smell also. It is a sad truth that for some of us our bodies are just picky with who it wants us to "mate" with. Lol. I am in a relationship now where I feel starved for sexual pleasure. We have sex, we mix it up, we try fun lubes, everything. Nothing does it for me though... and sadly... I know nothing ever will. You have to make a choice about what you want or think you can handle in your relationships. What is it you can live with or without? Does he need a good job, to be polite, nice, sexy, skinny, muscular, please you sexually? I've never ever met a man that had all of these qualities... Even someone I think is gorgeous just sometimes does not arouse me. There is nothing we can do about biology and such. :( Sorry Honey...
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (3 March 2012):
 Biological attraction can't be explained. Smell is a big factor when it comes to attraction. For me, looks is not all of it. I find myself getting turn on to most guys provided that they are not overweight or stinky.
You might be over your exboyfriend but you might have guarded your heart to new guys. You are young so you couldn't have been with that many guys to compare with your ex.
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