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writes:This is a really sticky situation; I was with the guy of my dreams (since 7th grade) for about 5 months and I ended up cheating on him with my ex-boyfriend of a year and a half. There was a LOT of drama which included a lot of his friends and whatnot. We kept talking on-and-off for about 2 months later until the night of my birthday. I was planning on coming to his apartment to celebrate my birthday (Oct. '07), I even talked to him right before I left my house. We were saying "I love you" and obviously planning on being together. Once I got into the town he was in, I visited some friends first (which he knew I was doing) and didn't answer my phone calls or texts...ever. Although he did text me a few weeks later, to see how I was doing, and of course my pride wouldn't let me respond, so I haven't talked to him since. I was his first love and first heartbreak, but 2 weeks after my birthday he starting dating a girl he had been friends w/ during our break-up, who is very pushy and threw herself on him. Many people have told me he still loves me, but could never get over the fact that I cheated on him. There hasn't been a day that's gone by that I haven't thought about him, sometimes I think about him all day; I still cry over him and pray for him at night. I have changed completely as a person, and I honestly do think we're meant to be together; there's not enough space here to describe how much I love him. And what's funny is we ended up having class together this semester, so I know God intended it to be that way. Do you think I should tell him about my feelings?
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reader, alexisrae +, writes (8 February 2008):
alexisrae is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey guys, I'm really appreciative of you all answering to my question. I have yet to talk (or write) to him, but I know that's the most crucial thing to do if I want him back, or to just let him know how I feel. But the thing is, I'm soooo scared of what his reacion is going to be, it's kind of like I don't even have the courage to talk to him. I feel like if I do talk to him or give him a letter he's going to run back to his girlfriend and all his friends and let them read it and whatnot, when it's none of anybody else's business. I just hope I can get the courage because my feelings are really getting the best of me. :o( But thanks again. :o)
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reader, 2confused137 +, writes (8 February 2008):
 omg this reminds me of me. I think my ex boyfriend is the one for me. Yes I am in 7th grade but he makes me feel so special when we are together. I have known him for 2 1/2 years. We started going out this year and we went out for quite a while. Until, my other ex came in and I cheated on him and broke up with him for my ex. We got back together but now again we've broken up. He won't answer my texts or phone calls but he will call once in a while. It hurts really bad and I cry a lot but I will get through it. So if you really love him tell him! I know I should because I think he might feel the same way. Guys don't show emotion they hide them so tell him. It usually ends up really good! And the best of luck too you... trust me you will end up with who you are supposed to be with. Everything happens for a reason so just tell him how you feel and wait.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (7 February 2008):
 Hi,
If I were you I would put all my thoughts down on a letter , it is the best way to lay out your feelings and emotions, and write it don't type it. Explain how you have changed, and how much you regret what you did but it was a mistake and will never happen again. What you did was very cruel and may take some serious work to convince him you are what he needs in his life.
If he isnt very religious, I wouldnt mention that you think God intends you to be together, after you cheated on him that is not going to be a very convincing argument, you are going to have do more than place your faith in a spirtual being to convince him that you are genuine. . If a girl told me that us having a class together was a result of divine intervention I would think that she is still avoiding taking responsiblity for her own actions.
good luck.
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